Recently, I saw this fun little situation on Twitter:
“You bang a girl on a first date. Weekend comes, and she texts you to come to a bar down the street. Horny, you comply. You go to the bar with a friend, and see she is surrounded by 3 guys. She smiles and waves at you to join the group. What’s your next move?”
Now, we’ll get to what yours truly would do in a minute, but first let’s discuss a few things first, shall we?
First and foremost, I’d wonder why anyone would bring their friend to what is seemingly a pretty easy booty call. Girl you just had a romp with, texting you on a weekend. My first impression would be that we’d be having a drink or two and then heading right back down the street to my room.
A second “date” is too early to meet friends, surely?
It’s easy to get up caught up in the whirlwind of a new thang. Harder to keep yourself grounded. King’s Code goes into details regarding how to put the brakes on a bit. Despite it being 2018 and girls wanting to hold off on that whole “actual commitment” thing for as long as possible, they still tend to push things fast with a guy they genuinely like.
Really the, I guess the best question is who the hell the guys are?
1. Are they hitting on her and she’s toying them to pass the time until you arrive?
Because if so, you know what you’re getting into. She might be fun, but she’ll eat your heart out if you show any weakness, at any point. This is her massive test for you. And it shows her colors. Any nice girl would obviously have politely turned them away if she was waiting for a date.
(I’d also ask what the 3 dudes are trying to accomplish by all hitting on her?)
2. Are they friends she brought?
If so, there is a bit hypocrisy there — because you brought a friend, too. I’d also say there is a bit of a difference between a girl bringing three dudes to her “date” and you bringing one pal out.
And in this case, you also are getting a look at her true colors. Frankly, she’s just weird.
3. It’s a genuine coincidence (probably unlikely).
So what would I do?
I would handle this situation by seeing what it’s all about in the first place. Because probably, no matter what, I’m getting a good story out of it. At the very least in my case, I’m getting some email brainstorming fodder.
In my humble opinion, you don’t look “weak” by going up to her and seeing what it’s all about.
Reason why is simple:
In fact, you look a bit hurt in the butt if you turn around and storm out of the bar. I mean, there’s the chance they’re her co-workers, brother, etc. and it was genuine coincidence they were all there at the same time. Turning around and walking out looks immature and petty on your part. Plus, you’re already out there and dressed, and with a friend.
One scenario is that she is toying them for attention. The second is if they are her friends and she brought them out for God-knows-reason. In both situations, I’d give her 10 minutes. If it didn’t look like she had any intention of getting rid of them and coming home with me (or at least spending 1-on-1 time with me), I’d be excusing myself to spend the rest of the evening with my buddy.
What’s the bottom line?
The easiest and surest way to preserve your dignity is obviously to just walk away from the whole situation once you’ve analyzed it.
In both cases there’s a bright side. You know she’s not a girl to invest any significant time into. Don’t take her home to Mom, don’t take her to any fancy dinners, and don’t give up your valuable time for her on a whim. Stick to calling her over for the late-night fun, and only when it’s convenient for YOU.
Oh, and one more thing:
Don’t accept any future invitations from her.
Now, if you want to truly date the highest quality girls…
Who would be FAR less likely to pull this shit…
And probably would show up to your 1-on-1 date in a set of heels.
Then you need to get overseas, plain and simple…
Details on how to do it are here:
Keep causing Trouble,