Work, Women, Life, Dogs and Patience
I’ve wrapped up my first week with the addition of a new, three-month-old Pembroke Corgi in my life (do note: not him in the photo above), and I have to say…it’s been eye opening.
First off, the amount of work — it is a lot, and there is really no denying that.
But, secondly — the amount of sheer joy is also incredible.
You know why?
Because dogs are free from nearly all the shackles and burdens that us humans face. Sure, they might have a bit of anxiety over when their next meal is, whether or not their favorite bush is there to pee, on, etc, etc. But, there’s a reason humans love dogs. It’s because they’re everything we’re not. Unencumbered, free, happy spirits.
I grew up with a dog, but at the time we got him, I was barely ten or so years old. I didn’t really have any understanding of the true burdens of life. Then I went to college, and never moved back home, so I never had a dog around when “real life” started. Until now.
And I have to say, all the BS seems just a little bit less BS-y with him around in my life.
He’s showing some signs of being a bit stubborn, but I’m sure it’s things that can be trained and worked through.
I’m quite lucky to be a “stay at home dad” (yes, I know, that sounds incredibly soy) with him for the time being, able to just work from home when it’s convenient, and still let the passive income from my niche sites and my main blog just roll in. All while going on walks, training him, and getting to be around his infectious spirit all the time.
Really, the little guy is gonna have a good life…left him at home in his kennel for the first time yesterday, for an hour. I rarely need to leave the house for more than 3-4 hours at a time. Plenty of dogs spend 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, alone, in sync with their master’s work schedule.
This little guy doesn’t have to worry about that.
Patience and Punishment
Is not one of my virtues, I am an honest enough person to admit that. And I do have a bit of a temper, if you set me off. Sometimes, I wonder where it comes from. I was a pretty calm kid overall. Perhaps it was the years of dating-angst that ultimately led me to realize that if I wanted to get what I wanted out of life, I had to stop being so nice.
Sadly, I do believe that anger is often attractive to women on some very primal level, and perhaps I’ve used that to my advantage more than a few times in my life.
However, the same is not true for dogs, on any level.
Punishment is not all that effective for them, you’re more likely to ultimately mold a scared and potentially dangerous dog if you go too far down that road.
Hence, unlimited amounts of patience must be applied, which is a new thing to me…
Anyways, more to come…I’ve always said that there are some striking ironies between training a dog and relationships (ignore bad behavior, don’t let emotions get to you, etc.) and I’m sure I’ll have more to say on the matter soon.