From part 2, it might be easy to conclude that I did everything I could and was simply a victim of bad timing. However, a natural friend of mine who I learned a lot from gave me this mantra once:
ABC – Always Be Closing
This means that if you can’t get sex, you try to get a blowjob. If you can’t get a blowjob, a handjob. If you can’t get her home, you get her into an alley or a bathroom. No bathroom, then make out. No make out…THEN you get a phone number.
I stopped at phone number, and didn’t try to push any farther. It doesn’t matter that it was the middle of the afternoon, I should’ve instant dated her. The coffee shops she was mentioning to me? I should’ve dragged her along with me to them. My “pickup” skills are average, at best. My “date” skills…are excellent. I could’ve turned the charm on, ran my usual date routines, demonstrated high value, etc. By the time she left the date with me she would’ve been buzzing with excitement over the exciting new, confident guy who picked her up during her mundane Saturday.
Instead, when she went out with the ex the following night, I was just a guy who picked her up and asked her out to a pizza place. No amount of text game would’ve turned it around, that I am sure of. As soon as I got the first text I knew it was over. I tried to turn it around, and failed. Always Be Closing means that you always need to be escalating, leading the interaction forward, and never wavering from your own game.
The good news is that it was the ex that was pushing to get back together with her, from what I can gather. The poor dude is already at a disadvantage, as he’s showing enough neediness that he wants her back in life. She’ll go back to him for now because it’s comfortable, but I’m sure it won’t last. I’ll keep her on the backburner until things go south with that guy, and then get her out.
And you bet I’ll make sure I go for the kill.