Ukrainian women are some of the most beautiful, elegant, and intelligent females on the planet. They’re also some of the most difficult.
I’ve spent most of my 2016 in Ukraine, and live here full-time now.
AND having coached and witnessed a lot of other guys struggle and succeed with the girls from the FSU, I think it’s time I lay it all out there in a blueprint for others to follow.
So, without further ado, I present to you:
The Guide to Ukrainian Women
- Where the hell do you meet them?
- The language obstacles
- The three date rule
- Being a “strong gentleman”
- The cultural differences
- The bedroom
- Continuing to thaw the ice
#1: Where to Meet Ukrainian Girls
Okay, so you’re a foreigner. And maybe you’re in Ukraine now, or simply interested in coming.
Let’s discuss online dating in Ukraine first.
Tinder is continuing to grow in popularity as it makes it’s way to the Eastern part of the world. Tinder in Ukraine is devoid of the thousands of bots and spammers that now plague Tinder in the West.
It’s absolutely feasible to meet cute Ukrainian girls off of Tinder, but you’re running the usual risks associated with online dating.
There are numerous other dating sites you can use to meet the women of Ukraine.
Ukraine Date is the best one. Many of the other ones are full of scams and bullshit membership fees.
However, Cupid Media is a pretty legit company. Their Ukraine Date subscriptions are straightforward. Pay for one month or three, and you can do whatever you want. When your membership expires, you lose access.
The most important thing to remember about online dating in Ukraine is that most girls in this country have model-quality shots.
It’s just part of the culture. If you’re a girl, you get professional photos taken of you and you post them online.
You can witness this every day in action, as there’s always girls out on the street “modeling”.
Therefore, it’s important to note that it’s easy to be fooled by online dating photos in Ukraine.
Where else to meet Ukrainian women?
The nightlife in Ukraine is totally hit or miss. There are good nights and bad. The girls out partaking in the Ukrainian nightlife will be receptive to talking to you.
But, they likely won’t be receptive to the possibility of a one night stand. It’s just not that kind of culture (more on that later).
So if you’re a guy who likes nightgame because of the thrill of the hunt, it may not be to your liking.
Daygame, however, can be very profitable. But this expands far beyond just stopping girls on the street.
Ukraine is a country where there are always events going on during the weekend–especially during the summer months.
Food, music, and art festivals can be a goldmine of cute Ukrainian chicks who have never even met a foreigner in their life.
Yeah, she’ll be receptive to having a drink with you.
Ukraine an be a tough place to figure out the dating culture, so the best thing you can truly do is just experiment a bit with everything. Find your niche.
#2: The Language Barrier with Ukrainian Women
The English levels are not strong in Ukraine.
However, they are getting better. But that’s the difference between a place like Ukraine and say, Poland.
In Poland, girls will go out with you just to practice English. And while that’s not ideal, if you at least get them out, you can give it your best shot.
Most women in Ukraine are not confident enough in their English that they want to come out and practice it just for kicks. In fact, your English ability will intimidate them.
Should it stop you?
But understand that Ukrainian women tend to be insecure about their English. It’s likely that this may improve in the coming years, as a fresh generation free of the Soviet Union continues to roll into the dating age bracket.
But for now, the best thing you can do is this-compliment her English.
No matter what. Doesn’t matter where you meet her. Tell her she speaks great English, and make fun of your bad, or nonexistent Russian.
And yes, learning a bit of Russian will help you a LOT. One, it allows you to eventually open and at least talk for a minute or two in her native tongue. This gets you in the door.
And two, your poor Russian will get a laugh out of her–provided you can laugh at yourself.
The best resources I’ve found for learning Russian is Russian Pod 101.
#3: Ukrainian Girls and Their 3 Date Rule
As I mentioned above, one night stands simply don’t happen often in Ukraine.
You’re far better off following a three date blueprint when it comes to going out with Ukrainian girls.
Date 1 should consist of a beer, or a coffee. It can be for an hour, or hell–even four. You’ll find that many Ukrainian women are intelligent, cultured, and simply pleasant to be around.
Date 2 can be as simple as going for a walk.
Now’s the time to note: Former Soviet Union girls love to walk. They will walk for miles and miles–yes, in high heels sometimes. Going for a walk for a date is something that is totally normal.
(Also, their high standards of dress means you should at least have some style.)
Date 3 can be more of the same, or, if she’s offered to cook for you–take her up on it! Many of these girls are very proud of their cooking abilities.
If cooking doesn’t happen you can offer to cook for her, or just take her out and then try to get her home.
If, at any point between these dates you get her home but no bang happens, it’s important to have a “reset” date. Meaning the next date you go out for a coffee and you don’t try anything super sexual.
Final note: Ukrainian culture tends to be one where plans aren’t really made. So if a girl hits you up at 4:30pm and asks you to go for a walk at 6:00pm, take it! Face time is important.
#4: Women in Ukraine Want a Strong Man
This is the part that is likely to confuse people from the West.
The women of Ukraine genuinely love men, but they want a strong man.
They will resist your kiss for hours on end, or sometimes even for dates.
And yeah, they want you to keep trying. Persistent pays off when it comes to the Ukrainian dating culture.
At the same time, Ukrainian girls don’t really respond to “asshole game”.
Sure, call them out on their bullshit, and pursue what you want–but being an immature dick will result in them walking out on you. The dick tactics that make vaginas wet in the United States will leave you out in the cold when it comes to Ukraine.
Examples of this would include, but aren’t limited to: Not picking up the check, not walking her to the bus or metro, or just generally being manipulative.
#5: Thaw the Ice with Ukrainian Women
When it comes to dating, the main difference is the one I described above: 3 dates in Ukraine versus usually just 1 in the Western world.
Another key difference is that there are defined gender roles of society.
The women are expected to be women. This means they cook, clean, and have babies. In fact, many Ukrainian daughters have been shamed for not being married by the age of 25.
On the other side, the men are expected to work and provide. Yes, this means you should pay for everything.
Finally, the biggest difference in the Ukrainian culture is the “coldness” of it.
This doesn’t make them rude or mean. It simply makes them genuine.
Have you ever noticed how Western girls become best friends after…say, ten minutes of knowing each other? It’s all so fake.
On the flip side, every time I bring my Ukrainian girl out to meet my friend’s girls, there is a bit of cautiousness. They aren’t planning to be each others bridesmaids after an hour.
In fact, even after you sleep with a Ukrainian girl, you may still have to thaw the ice off of her. It’s just not a culture where people are especially warm to each other at first.
It’s hard to put into words, but you’ll understand once you start dating Ukrainian women. It just takes time for them to open up to you.
But once they do…wow.
They are truly some of the most warming, loving, and feminine creatures on the planet. True beauty, inside and out.
Ukrainian Women Closing Thoughts
You didn’t go all the way across the world to Ukraine to have a Western dating experience, did you?
Too many men make this mistake.
They expect to touch-down in Ukraine, and immediately have women jumping into their beds simply because they have an American passport.
Don’t get me wrong, they will still be eager to meet. But expecting it to be a cakewalk like in the aforementioned places is going to set you up for disappointment.
Instead, use it as an opportunity to grow. Screen girls for the highest quality, from both a physical and personality perspective.
Immerse yourself in the Ukrainian culture.
Learn a little Russian.
Get to know the girls.
I promise, if you put in the work–you won’t be disappointed.
PS: If you’re ready to start meeting Ukrainian girls now, click here.