Kyle here: This is a guest post about Southeast Asian girls by an old friend who no longer blogs actively.
Southeast Asian girls are much sweeter, more feminine and eager to please a man than Western girls. We all know that.
Most white girls have gotten fat, disgusting and bitter with entitled attitudes. With a few rare exceptions, only a fool of a man would date or marry a Western white girl today. A man would be much happier with Southeast Asian girls—as long as she is not a bar girl.
I’ve spent at least two years of vacationing, traveling and living in four different countries of Southeast Asia. I partied with, went on dates and had relationships with Southeast Asian girls in Thailand, Indonesia, Vietnam and the Philippines.
Whenever I found an exceptional girl whom I really liked, I would take her on trips to exotic islands with beautiful blue waters, historical sites with local fresh food, or to the mountains with refreshingly cool waterfalls. We’d spend quality time together for a week or so away from the chaotic hustle and bustle of a typical Southeast Asian city.
On these little trips, I was much happier and more relaxed than I was on my honeymoon with my now ex-wife.
Yes. I was married to a Western girl.
After five years together, we got a divorce. Five years may not sound like that much time, but deep down, I knew our marriage was doomed right from the start. It took five years until I decided I finally had enough and went dating abroad.
Once my divorce was finalized, I packed my bags to travel around Southeast Asia. At the time, I was used to bitchy Western women, so these petite and sweet Southeast Asian girls completely blew my mind.
Here’s a specific example:
Whenever I got sick, my ex-wife would roll her eyes, scoff at my “attention-seeking” attempts and walk out of the house without so much as a “love you honey”. Alone and bedridden with a 102°F fever, I was rueing my mistake:
“Is this really the kind of woman I married? Is this how she’s going to treat me when I’m on my deathbed pushing eighty?”
Now, take typical Southeast Asian girls…
What do Southeast Asian girls do if you got sick?
She would tell you to stay in bed, take the day off work, go to the pharmacy to buy medicine and pick up some groceries on the way to your place. Even if you told her you’d be fine and that you’d take care of yourself, she’d insist on taking care of you.
She’d cook up a storm and serve you soothingly warm soup with vegetables, eggs, chicken and noodles that tastes better than at most restaurants.
After your meal, she’d put a pill in your mouth and offer you some lukewarm (not cold) water after you swallowed your medicine.
She would lay in bed with you and lovingly stroke your chest with her small feminine hand, watching you carefully for any signs that you’re getting better or worse.
When I got sick with a bad cold for the first time in the Philippines, I had been dating this girl for some time. I was so touched by the way this girl treated me, I had to spend a lot of effort holding back tears.
That was when I knew:
I will never date a Western white woman ever again.
That is the danger in dating lovely Southeast Asian girls—you will not be able to go back.
Okay, Southeast Asian girls are great. We’ve definitely established that.
But in each country within the Southeast Asia region are vastly different languages, cultures, histories, resources and economies. Thais, Vietnamese, Indonesians, Laotians, Cambodians and Filipinas are all different.
How are Southeast Asian Girls in Each Country Different?
Granted, a lot of these differences are viewed through the lens of one person, colored by my own personal experiences. In an attempt to keep things more objective, I introduce six comparison metrics with 1 being the worst and 5 being the best:
This is more about how the girls act than how they look. Do they act like a woman? Or more like a man? 1 is the most unfeminine where women act like men, and 5 is where femininity oozes out of every pore of their being.
This is a simplification of the conventional 1 to 10 scale where 1 is fat and ugly with short hair dyed blue, and 5 is hot, thin and stylish.
Closely related with femininity, but there is a distinction between that and attitude. Attitude is not just about how they act, but also rooted within their deeply seated belief systems. Are they bitter and entitled takers (1), or are they sweet and affectionate flexible givers (5)?
For more than a fuck buddy relationship, you want a girl to have an intelligence level somewhat close to yours. Deviate any further than that and you will likely be bored or frustrated. 1 means low intelligence and hard to talk with, and 5 is high curiosity and can discuss history, politics, etc.
Relationships are more fulfilling within conservative societies. In this scale, 1 means many women are degenerates who lean super slutty (e.g. England, U.S., Australia). 5 means highly conservative and family oriented, rarely fornicating before marriage (e.g. Saudi Arabia).
In Southeast Asia, most people don’t speak English outside of the touristy areas. But some girls do know a little English. They would normally love a chance to practice with you! 1 means most people speak zero English, where 5 means most people are at least 90% fluent in English.
The Western Blueprint
Using women from the West as the “control” to help you gain perspective on what Southeast Asian girls are like:
- Femininity: 1
- Looks: 1
- Attitude: 1
- Intelligence: 2
- Conservativeness: 1
- English: 5
Pretty dismal, eh?
Just about the only redeeming quality Western girls have over Southeast Asian girls is that they are more fluent in English.
Now, you might quibble with me giving them an intelligence score of 2, so let me explain:
It isn’t always about IQ. I don’t give Western girls a high intelligence score because many subscribe to feminism, an utterly stupid and retarded belief system contributing to the toxic decline of Western civilization. Add all these mental problems and extremely poor judgement among Western women—that’s enough to dock another point or two.
Now let’s compare all Southeast Asian girls.
Thais are slim, petite and quite feminine. Looks and cleanliness are extremely important to them. They understand style and what it takes to get a man’s attention—no one wears those sexy tight retro jean shorts better than Thais.
Generally, Thais have smaller asses than their counterparts in the other three countries, plus Cambodia and Laos. Northern Thais have whiter skin but are more reserved like the Chinese. Southern Thais have darker skin but with bigger butts.
Thailand is the only country of Southeast Asia that had never been colonized by a Western or European country. While their history is very rich, their culture is a little more insular and provincial than other Southeast Asian countries.
Outside of Bangkok, Thai girls are actually pretty conservative. Many are Buddhists who save their virginity until marriage.
Most of them have never even been on a date with a foreigner.
If you approach such girls on the street or in a coffee shop, they will be very shy and timid, even if they’re interested in you.
In Bangkok and some of the bigger cities, girls are noticeably less conservative and are more down to party with foreigners. If you love going to nightclubs and partying into the wee hours, you will have no problem finding Thai girls to have fun with.
When you go to Thailand, don’t expect your dates to be filled with philosophical conversations about the meaning of life. Because their English is limited, the conversations will usually be quite basic. You might find some girls who like a little slapstick humor.
But be careful.
With their lese majeste laws, be especially cautious what you say about Thai politics within earshot of any Thai national. Or better yet, just don’t bring up political topics at all.
Their enthusiasm about sex is mixed, but many Thais enjoy it as much as you do.
Some Thais will be very hesitant to go to your room even after taking a different Tinder dick every night of the previous week. Others will have no problem with getting straight to business. I’ve had Thais who lay in bed like a starfish and did not moan during sex.
I’ve also had Thais who were loud screamers, wanting to fuck in every position imaginable in every room, including the balcony. I even had to kick one girl out of my place at 4 am because she was so horny and wouldn’t let me sleep!
While Bangkok, and to some extent Chiang Mai, are becoming somewhat Westernized, in these cities Thais have better English and are much more open to dating foreigners. However, they can still be particular about dating men of specific ethnic groups (some, but not all). Thais can be resistant, or even openly racist, to African Americans, Middle Easterners and especially Indians—very similar to Ukrainian women.
Unfortunately, with increasing Westernization in Bangkok and Chiang Mai, some Thais have been developing a bit of an attitude behind their surface politeness, especially if they have a colorful past with other foreigners.
At least the standard of living in Thailand is high and is a great place to live, especially if you make the effort to learn a few words of Thai.
Bangkok is one of the only places in the world you can get first world accommodation at third world prices.
You can travel to other areas of Thailand and even neighboring countries with basement air fares, and there is no shortage of great spots to explore whether you like the city, beach or the mountains.
You can see the looks and behavior of Thai girls on this website.
I’ve lived in Vietnam for about three months total and I love Vietnamese women.
They are smart and hard working, yet feminine people with cheery attitudes. Vietnam can be a difficult country to live in, but they are a resilient people. I believe their resilience through thick and thin comes from the Vietnam War and, going further back in time, its rich history with multiple dynasties feuding for power.
Like Thailand, Vietnam is predominantly Buddhist.
They have a higher level of intellectual curiosity about the world, more so than other Southeast Asian girls. Many are curious about foreigners, and will even approach you to take selfies or to practice English with you.
Generally, Vietnamese women have bigger tits and asses than Thais due to the Chinese genetic influence from the North. Indeed, northern Vietnamese women have a distinct Chinese look. Other than minor nose jobs, plastic surgery or skin whitening creams are less popular here than in other Asian countries. The Vietnamese seem to embrace their authenticity both in appearance and personality.
However, they generally are quite conservative. Premarital sex is forbidden and promiscuity is publicly shamed.
Of course, many girls do it on the down low. In public, they are self-conscious about being seen with a foreigner, so they will not kiss you in public.
But in private, they get very enthusiastic during sex. They finally get a chance to release that pent-up sexual energy (and the smile on their face after they finish is priceless).
This is unlikely to happen on the first date, though.
If you are looking for a place to party and take home a different girl every night, Vietnam is not for you.
But if you want a long term relationship or even a wife, Vietnam might be a good place to look if you are patient enough to give it several dates and learn some Vietnamese. If you wanted to know what dating was like in America circa 1950s, Vietnam might be worth a look.
Personally, I have much more engaging conversations with Vietnamese girls than Thais, Indonesians or Filipinas. Even with a lower level of English, Vietnamese girls have more going on up in their brains.
If they like you, they might even make an effort to improve their English.
My current Vietnamese girlfriend didn’t have good English when we first met, and conversation was a little painfully slow at first. But in the past 4-5 months, her English has improved by leaps and bounds. Frankly, I’m amazed how she picked it up so fast as English is not an easy language to master.
The other side to their higher intelligence, however, is that they can be quite cunning if they want to. Caveat emptor.
The problem with Vietnam is if you don’t speak Vietnamese, you have a small pool of English-speaking women to work with. A little effort spent in learning Vietnamese will open up a much wider pool of higher quality women for you.
Remember, Vietnam is far from a first world country and the amenities you are used to will be more expensive and harder to come by. Still, if you have a Vietnamese girl who likes you, she can help you get better deals instead of constantly getting overcharged with foreigner prices. You’d be able to travel to beautiful places and exotic beaches up and down the coast on a budget.
The bottom line is Vietnam can be a great place to meet girls if you are patient, willing to learn the culture and language, and meet people through social events other than bars or nightclubs.
Check out Vietnamese women on this website.
Filipinas are among my favorite girls in all of Southeast Asia. They exude so much sweetness and femininity, it’s enough to melt the most bitter and black-hearted man in the world.
There’s a reason why male retirees flock to the Philippines.
They really know how to take care of a man and how to make him happy. Plus, one of the best things about Filipinas is that they speak English! The middle-class ones or higher will be nearly fluent in English, and these are the ones you should go for—not the poorer ones who might be more after your money over your personality. The higher up in class they are, the better educated.
But the gap between the rich and poor in the Philippines is absolutely staggering and the poverty is crushing.
Although most Filipinas are average and plain-looking, it is not hard to find some beautiful ones. Despite the growing obesity problem in the Philippines, high birth rates lend an almost unlimited supply of young Filipinas eager to meet a gentleman who has his shit together.
The look of Filipinas vary from north to south. In the north, on the island of Luzon where Manila resides, the girls tend to be taller and a bit whiter. In the south, especially around Visayas where Cebu is, or further down in Mindanao where Davao City is, they tend to be a little shorter and darker. Many Filipinas have some Spanish blood, so bigger asses are more common among them than Thais or East Asians.
Remember my story above about me getting sick and a girl giving me medicine and soup? That was a Filipina.
I don’t doubt that other Southeast Asian girls would do the same for you if you got sick, though. Filipinas are exceedingly sweet and affectionate—it can almost be too much. If they really like you, she will cry when you are apart even just for one day. It’s how they express their feelings for you.
As a whole, Filipinas are conservative. Most people in the Philippines are Catholic.
They are extremely loyal to their families, even to a fault—for example, consistently putting their families ahead of their own spouses, or even giving half of their paycheck to their parents.
Still, despite them being conservative, they are extremely curious about foreign men and sometimes see them as a way out of poverty.
So if you visit the Philippines, you will likely have no problem finding a girl to sleep with. Some girls are even willing to go straight to your room and get down to business, especially if you stay in the Makati area of Manila. However, girls who do that are probably not the best relationship material.
If you can handle living in a third world country with lots of poverty, understand their deep-seated cultural loyalty towards their family, and have the sense to screen out scammers or bad prospects for a wife, the Philippines could be a great place for you in the long term.
It can also be good for a short visit and to sleep with lots of girls, but many Filipinas are now catching onto guys who travel to the Philippines just for that purpose—they call them “fuckboys”.
Instead, I would encourage guys who go to the Philippines to find just one girl they actually like, and take her on a trip to one of the 7,000 beautiful islands with fresh seafood, white sand beaches and clear blue-green water.
Trips like that are far more rewarding than constantly chasing tail.
As a final note, Filipino Cupid is a goldmine for these girls.
If you’re walking down a random street in Jakarta, you’d be hard pressed to find a stunner.
Most Indonesian women are plain looking and a little rough around the edges. Many are somewhat plump. Although I’ve spent only a limited amount of time in Indonesia, I’ve met quite a few sexy Indonesian ladies. They can be found off Tinder, at the malls or at bars and nightclubs.
Nightclubs are the best place to find the real stunners in Jakarta.
You might also find them in Bali, but you’re more likely to run into other tourists there from Russia or Australia.
As a foreigner in Indonesia, people will stare at you. Even—especially—the girls wearing hijabs. Prepared to get stared at like a rare piece of meat when you visit.
If you’re traveling off the beaten path in Indonesia, the first thing to understand about this country is that it is predominantly Muslim.
A solid majority of Indonesian girls are very conservative and will not have sex until marriage. But there are some who would happily engage in oral or anal sex to preserve their hymen, so if you are looking for a wife, you still need to do your due diligence.
In the cities like Jakarta or Bali, many girls are much more liberal when it comes to sex before marriage. Like Filipinas and some Thais, some would come directly to your room and get straight to business. These girls are surprisingly open-minded when it comes to no-strings-attached sex or being fuck buddies.
If this happens to you when you visit Jakarta, it’s highly likely that she’s done this before.
For example, if you stay in the Thamrin Residences—a famous and well known apartment complex for foreign travelers—and she says, “Oh yes I know Thamrin, I’ve been there before”, this is exactly what I’m talking about 99% of the time. Wrap it up!
Most Indonesian girls speak passable English, so you will not have much trouble communicating with them. You can even find girls who will have interesting conversations with you. Like the Vietnamese, they are hardworking and driven people—hungering for an an edge in life and to stay out of poverty.
Jakarta is not an easy city to stomach for more than a week at a time.
The pollution, traffic with incompetent drivers, minor inconveniences adding up daily, random rainstorms, expensive alcoholic drinks and a lack of fun things to do can be tough to deal with on a daily basis.
Many people opt to go straight to Bali instead.
The more adventurous travelers will usually spring for an itinerary from Jakarta to Surabaya, Yogyakarta, a strenuous hike up a high-altitude volcano, and finish it off with a few relaxing days on a nice beach before heading home.
You can see what Indonesian girls look like for free on Indonesian Cupid.
Conclusion on Southeast Asian Girls
Despite these differences, Southeast Asian girls in Thailand, Philippines, Vietnam and Indonesia have a lot of similarities.
They are feminine, sweet and know how to treat a man.
Let’s hope it stays this way because I have seen and heard anecdotal cases of Western influence creeping into these countries in recent years. Nothing to be alarmed about yet, but I worry that Southeast Asia could be a very different place 20 to 30 years from now compared to today.
Although there’s no way to know which country you will like best until you visit and meet at least a few girls, I would personally recommend starting with Thailand first if you have never been to Southeast Asia before.
Unless you’re an experienced traveler feeling extra adventurous, visiting a “second-world” country like Thailand is a sensible introduction to Southeast Asia as opposed to diving straight into a third-world country.
As I wrap up this post, which I hope you find useful, I’ll leave you with this one last tip—please treat Southeast Asian girls right. I implore you to do your best to not break their hearts. Because if you hurt them deeply, they might turn just as bitter as the caricatural Western woman we all love to bash.
Oh yeah—there’s one more thing you need to know… and I promise you this is not a joke…
BONUS TIP: Superstitions run very deeply in Buddhist countries like Thailand and Vietnam. They believe in ghosts, so keep that in mind before suggesting to watch a horror flick in your room…