Have you heard of Bumble?
It’s basically Tinder, except once you match – women must message the men first. In reality, it’s an extremely flawed system. As I’ve said many times before, women are the the passive sex. Men are the chasers. The doers. This means that women don’t have an innate need to “mate”. Sure, they love sex. But for the most part, they are passive while the men pursue that avenue. They receive, not give.
Which is why Bumble is, on paper, a flawed system. It’s been absolutely useless for me when I’ve been on American soil. My friends have reported the same thing. However, something weird happened here in Poland tonight.
I fired up Bumble, and matched with a decent looking girl. She messaged me within five minutes. We traded a few questions back and forth; she was quite inquisitive. Then I took another look at her profile, and noticed that the university listed in it was, in fact, an American university. So I asked her and she confirmed – yes, she was American.
She’s a solid 7.5.
Which means that in America, she would never, ever have to put as much effort into the conversation as she did. Never. There would be so many guys blowing up her phone from so many avenues of life (social circle, online dating, nights out drinking, etc.).
So what can we conclude from that? Well, there’s a few theories…
#1: THERE ARE MORE WOMEN THAN MEN
#2: THE MEN IN THIS CITY SUCK
Regardless of which one of these it is, something becomes very clear: sex is a market, and as is true in life – the markets never lie. This girl realizes that quality men are in high demand but short supply. Therefore, her attitude has automatically shifted to work for it, as opposed to doing absolutely nothing (i.e. most American cities, possible exception: New York City).
When supply is less than demand, things shift.
It was quite flattering in a way. I really have no interest in dating an American girl here in Poland, but it was interesting to see how the perspective changed.
You know how water takes the shape of the glass it’s in? Well, same applies here. This girl has now shifted her attitude, mindset, and charm to be more feminine, to take the shape of the way that the market has presented itself to her. What exactly causes that “shift” in a woman, I don’t know.
What I do know is – if I could bottle that and sell it, I’d be filthy rich.
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At first glance, Bumble seems like a good idea – it ought to cut out a lot of the pointless attention whoring from many girls who are only on dating apps to harvest validation.
But, when you consider (and I’ve not even confirmed this yet, but I strongly suspect it will be the case) that most of the girls are probably just going to go with a zero-investment “Hi” as their opener, you’re basically right back at square one.
Correct. That’s their one and only opener.
Though I did get a couple of “heys”.
I heard of Bumble via Tim Ferriss’s podcast. He did a very small plug for it (maybe he did truly like it). The idea is good in theory (i.e. “sit back and girl will chase YOU”…except it won’t happen as Kyle explains, lol).
It’s funny, on OKC, I’ve seen girl’s profile being quite haughty, including warnings that “guys should not open with simply ‘hi’/hey.
Nice to see the tables turn with respect to supply/demand in Poland.
The reality of the situation is this: if women were 100% in charge of reproducing and keeping our species alive, we’d have long ago gone extinct.
YES the irrefutable law of SUPPLY & DEMAND.
What changed? The ENVIRONMENT along with the Sexual Market, who would have thunk?
I’m glad your experiences this first hand and shared this.
I’ve got more elaborate stuff coming soon!
Hahah once you date a quality European girl, you can’t see even decent looking American girls the same way again. Just can’t compare. I totally know that feeling.
And just like sales, dating has similar concepts of demand and supply.
You’re telling me man. Was out with my second Ukrianian girl of the week and she tells me she paints, but isn’t very good. I ask to see…and I’m blown away. Then she admits that some of them were bought and put on display.
And she’s all of 19!
She knows how to be humble. Sounds like a good gal.
Yeah. Struggling to get her out again, sadly.
I wonder if that American lady will, if she had hooked up with you, does a switcheroo, and just acts like an American girl (entitled, ‘fem-powered’, strong, blah blah blah).
We’ll never find out as I stopped responding as soon as I found out she was American.
Smart! I think the same rule should apply if you find a Canadian.
Don’t marry in Canada, as Dave Foley learned:
I do love Montreal though…and some French girls.