I press the lock button on the key to my Mustang, grab my bag from the trunk, and start walking in the direction of my apartment. It’s a slow, confident walk, one that comes after a day of kicking ass and saving the world at my job. I’ve been up since 6:00am that morning, and it ‘s about 6:30pm when I finally unlock the door to my apartment and step inside. The day started with a trip to the gym, a quick run home, shower, and then a day at work. I get off work and relax with the music blasting on my not-so-bad 20 minute commute home on a typical…we’ll say, Tuesday night. I also went for a run on my lunch, so it’s been a long day. I feel good, but I’m definitely more on the fatigued side than energized.
I get inside, and unpack all of my clothes from my bag. I put on a little music and start to cook whatever is for dinner that night. Maybe I crack open a bottle of wine or a couple of beers. While dinner is cooking, I sit down at my computer which is offset to my kitchen, and check all of my usual items of importance. Manosphere articles, ESPN, blog comments…and of course, my online dating profiles. I check them periodically throughout the day at work, but maybe a couple of cuties have responded in the hour or two since then. I fire off a couple messages back and focus on dinner. While the food is heating up, I saunter over to my bedroom and change my work slacks and button-down for a pair of basketball shorts and a hoodie. I sip on my beer while the delicious aroma of food fills my apartment.
Now, I have two options.
- I can finish my dinner, grab a shower, and head out to Taco Tuesday at my local Mexican watering holes. Since it’s a big college night, there will be plenty of cute girls out, but if I want to farm some serious numbers or even pull someone for sex, there is undoubtedly going to be a lot of time involved in that process. I might be able to nab 3-5 numbers, but more than likely the majority will not be solid leads (1 or 2 will be). At a minimum, I’m probably going to be out until 1am, and that’s no guarantee of any real results. If I stay up that late, there is no doubt in my mind I will not be hitting the gym at 6am, not have time to pack my lunch, and feeling sluggish at work the next day.
- I can sit down with my food and beer and open up my document entitled, “dating.template.docx.” I select my trademark opener, hit Ctrl-C, and navigate to OKCupid, POF, MeetMe, etc. I load the matches page, and select a dozen cute girls that I haven’t messaged before. I paste my opener into all of their profiles, hit send, and then go and take a dump and drink another beer. I come back, and there’s several responses for me. I refer back to my Word document, which contains well over a dozen pre-scripted responses (maybe I’ll post it one day) to almost anything they could throw at me for my first few messages. On average, about 40-50% of the girls respond to me. Out of those half, I’ll be able to scoop up a handful of numbers which will set me up for the next week. They probably won’t flake because I have a great profile and pictures; which demonstrate value, ambition, and options. Because I live in a major city, there is never a shortage of attractive girls who are new to online dating, more than happy to meet up with me simply because I don’t come across as a desperate creep like the majority of men on dating sites. I spend an hour or two that night messaging back and forth with cuties, and multitasking; doing the dishes, watching a movie, or writing a blog post.
I’ll take some heat for this…but fuck, is it just me, or does option two seem like a much better idea?
In no way am I advocating being a keyboard jockey and never getting out in the real world. If you want results, you simply have to talk to people and hone your social skills. But for guys in a large city with an endless supply of girls online, is it really that bad of an option to have online game be your primary source of pussy? Especially if you’re going on 3+ dates a week, you’ll get to the point where you establish routines, venues, and logistics down to the T. At this point, I easily have 3-4 dates a week. I go out with friends two nights a week (and I do talk to girls and get leads), go to Krav Maga or some other activity another night, and that leaves me one or two days at home to recover (which I need for my own sake). Usually, I number farm online while drinking on these nights because I find it a good way to unwind and I enjoy it.
If you’re filling your calendar out every week primarily by online dating, does that make you a chump or simply someone who likes to work smarter, not harder? I’ll be the first to tell you, I need to work on my daygame skills. However, as Roosh says, I simply can’t put in a dozen hours a week going to malls, busy streets, etc to hit on girls. It’s not sustainable with my job, hobbies, side gigs, and social life. I’ve been online dating for nearly a year now, and there is no shortage of new girls on these sites for me to ever exhaust. If I ever got to that point, I have no doubt I could just go inactive for a week and have hundreds of options upon return. It’s really that good here.
Is this laziness, or simply working efficiently?