I’m not always a cold-hearted ladykiller.
But when I am…I tend to stomp on them.
This is a post about missing someone who…well – I’m gonna miss. This faceless girl:
Kinda like this girl in my past, she got to me.
Good sex? Check.
Willing to let me bang other girls? Check-PLUS.
(Her second podcast interview is exclusive to The Harem Handbook).
All in all, she was a great girl whom I had a great time with. We started dating in August of 2015, and never had a single spat or issue up until she found my blog in January of this year.
She took it better than the past girls did so I suppose that the third time is the charm.
This girl meant a lot to me and I will genuinely miss the hell out of her. Those who say that relationships are dumb, gay, lifesucking, etc., are fucking stupid. Relationships have the potential to be extremely rewarding and happy if you do them correctly. Now, if I’d committed to monogamy with this girl shortly after we started dating – after being single for just a few months – I would’ve come to resent her.
If you do relationships from an alpha and dominant perspective, where she falls into your frame, you’ll be shocked how awesome it can be to have someone in your life who you genuinely care about. Who is more than a warm hole to stick your dick in. Who you don’t mind cooking for. Who you enjoy
nuzzling your dick in her asscrack spooning all night.
As sappy as it sounds, it can really be wonderful.
A Man & His Mission
Living abroad has been calling my name for quite some time, really. Ever since I took my first trip back in April of 2014 – it’s hard to imagine that was two entire years ago. At the time, I was a very bright-eyed 22-year-old who had seen none of the world. Now, the world is at my fingertips.
This is my mission.
To travel, to write, to live, to produce. Not to consume. Not to be a prisoner to American’s societal shackles.
She understood that I have I have my man’s mission. That inner drive and mission is likely what made her so wildly attracted to me in the first place. The fact that she was not my sole focus in life, and knew that she had to earn my attention. This is what women crave. To look up to a man they can admire and respect, not down on a chump whose entire mission in life is to serve her.
After all, what kind of man is that?
Frankly, a cuck.
Yeah, I said it.
Did I Love Her?
Someone is gonna ask it.
Everyone is thinking it.
If her friend, who she showed this blog, and now reads it all the damn time, reads it – she’s going to squeal like a pig (settle down girl – you know who you are).
If my girl reads it, her heart is going to stop. (Breathe dear.)
So here’s my answer: not yet, anyway. If we had stayed together and things had continued how they were, I have no doubt I would have said it at some point down the road – though of course I wouldn’t have said it until she said it first.
I. Never say ‘I Love You’ first
Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man’s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives his emotional world away too easily robs women of the satisfaction of earning his love. Though you may be in love with her, don’t say it before she has said it. Show compassionate restraint for her need to struggle toward yin fulfillment. Inspire her to take the leap for you, and she’ll return the favor a thousandfold.
So there’s that.
There is no moving on like there was last July when I broke up with my girlfriend. With this one, I will genuinely stay in touch and see her during my trips back to California.
I’ll always miss her.
Do you have YOUR mission? If not, I can help.