Today’s post is a guest post from Sebastian Harris of Global Seducer. He had an experience similar to the ones I’ve had with people finding my blog, so I thought this would be a great post of his to feature here on This Is Trouble. Speaking of those stories, if you need a refresher…
So, without further ado:
How to Tell Your Girlfriend that You Write About Seduction and Dating
When I met my girlfriend I knew that she was not one of those girls who I only spend one night with before I say goodbye forever.
Somehow it felt weird. I had sex with quite a few women before I met her, but I never felt such a strong connection before. I wouldn’t go so far as to say that I was in love after a couple of days, but I have to admit that there was one thought in my mind that made me lose sleep:
“How the hell do I tell her that I have a website about dating and seduction?”
Before I met her I promised myself that I would be honest about my writing, in case I would ever meet a girl who means more to me than the orgasms I have inside of her. I constantly write about being honest and authentic on my website, but now it was time to act according to those values.
The only problem was that I was scared that I would lose her, if I would tell her about my dream and my vision. Nevertheless, I knew that I didn’t want to hide it from her. The last thing I wanted was to lie about every article I write in her presence.
I strongly believe that radical honesty is the most important aspect of a happy relationship. The only thing I had to do was to present this honesty in a way that made it seem beneficial to our relationship.
Prepare Her for a Bigger Shock
In case you also want to stop hiding something from your girlfriend, no matter if it is a blog or a dark secret from the past, you should think before you act. The worst thing you can do is to look her deep into the eyes while you tell her everything without preparing her for this moment.
I tried this tactic with my best female friend. I just told her that I write about seduction and sexuality and that it is my dream to work in this area. All I got as an answer was a confused “okaaay…” before she asked me if I am a pimp or if I sell sex toys.
With my girlfriend I wanted to try another technique. I wanted to put her on an emotional rollercoaster ride by preparing her for an even bigger shock. When a woman is afraid that you break up with her, she will be relieved when she finds out that you just wanted to tell her about your naughty blog.
I walked up to her, looked her deep into the eyes and used the magic sentence that has the power to give every woman on this planet a heart attack.
“Honey, we need to talk…”
She looked at me with fear and worry. It seemed to work.
Start with the Word Dating
I sat down, looked at her as if I just found out that I have cancer and said that there is something I have to tell her. Her hands started to shiver and I could hear her heart beating faster and faster. It was time to say what I had to say.
There is one more thing you should consider before you reveal your secret internet identity. Make sure that you use the word dating and not the word seduction. In my experience a lot of women are genuinely interested in all topics that revolve around dating, but as soon the word seduction comes into play they get suspicious. There are just too many websites out there who equate seduction with using sneaky tricks and methods to trick girls into bed.
When you tell a girl that you write about seduction, she immediately assumes that you are one of those guys. That’s why I explained her everything with the word dating.
“There is something I want you to know. My dream is to become a writer and the topics I write about are related to dating. I just want to be honest to you and it’s important to me that you know about it.”
I could see the relief in her eyes. I could see how happy she was that I didn’t break up with her. All she said was “That’s all you want to tell me?” while she smiled at me with sparkling eyes.
Share Your Vision with Her
What happened next was predictable. She wanted to know everything. One the one hand, she was relieved that I didn’t end our relationship and on the other hand, she was eager to find out what my site was all about.
What’s the worst thing you can possibly do in such a situation? The worst thing to do would be to tell her that you write about banging chicks. In case you have a vision that goes beyond banging hot girls, which I truly hope, you should share this vision with your girlfriend.
Women are instinctively attracted to men who have a vision and a purpose in life. A man with a vision communicates confidence, the ability to lead and the determination to follow his own path. The more I told her about my vision to improve the lives of men and women all over the world, the more she fell in love with me.
I never thought in a million years that my website could have such a positive impact on my relationship.
Emphasize the Benefits for Your Relationship
Once I realized that my girlfriend was fascinated with my vision and my determination to follow my own path, especially because it wasn’t the typical 9 to 5 path, I wanted to show her that my website didn’t just have the power to change the lives of other people.
I was convinced that it also had the power to improve our relationship and I wanted her to understand the reasons.
My girlfriend lives in another country, so I told her about how the income from my website could allow us to spend as much time together as we want. I told her how the dating tips I give to guys all over the world can also improve our sex life and our relationship. I told her how writing articles and books makes me happy. She immediately understood the connection between a happy boyfriend and a happy relationship.
Once I finished listing all the benefits that my website could have for our relationship, she promised me to take care of me and to support me, so that I could fully concentrate on my online business.
Since I told my girlfriend about my blog, our relationship got better every day.
Promise Her to Protect Her Privacy
Even though my girlfriend was excited and supportive from the moment I told her about my online project, I had to promise her one thing. I had to promise her that I don’t post any pictures of her on the internet and that I don’t reveal her name.
To be honest, it is very easy for me to keep this promise. The last thing I want is that some internet trolls and self-proclaimed white knights attack her. In case you are in the same situation as I was, I can entrust you to respect and protect the privacy of your girlfriend.
Of course I couldn’t promise her that the day won’t come when some guy without a life spends all his time to reveal her identity, but I could promise her that I do everything in my power to prevent this day from happening.
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