Last updated: August 31, 2016

How to Get a Girl to Like You Over Text



A lot of people say it’s not possible to generate attraction over text messaging. That texting is more or less a medium to “not blow it.” Generally speaking, it’s thought of as a bad deal for men. A lot can go wrong. But there’s little to gain.

As the tide of dating continues to shift towards technology, I disagree with the above statements. Greatly.

The question then is, is it possible to get a girl to like you (more) over text?

How to Get a Girl to Like You Over Text

Let’s take a look at the below interaction to see what I’m talking about.

How to Get a Girl to Like You Over Text

It all depends on the current aspect of the interaction. If you say and do the right things, you can make a girl more attracted to you simply over text messaging.

When else during time has it been possible to make a girl like you more while you sit on the couch in your boxers?

The first step is to have something more to offer her. With social media attention whoring these days, it’s actually quite easy to show high value.

High value = more attraction

I suggest you read this article for a full overview of how to become high value.

Let me give you an example.

If you’re a traveling man (like yours truly), showing a girl your Instagram can make her like you even more. When she sees all the photos of you in exotic places (with some exotic hotties), then all of a sudden she’ll feel a deeper stirring in her loins.

Hmm, maybe he’s been around a lot of the world…and vaginas. Wait, are these other girls in other countries hotter than me? Whoa…why does my vagina feel like Niagara Falls? Hmm…maybe he’ll ask me out…

If you’ve ever really watched women think about relationships, you’ll see that a small thing like your Instagram can send them into a tailspin of thinking about you.

Her thinking about you = more attraction.

See how easy this formula is? It all comes down to being a high value and interesting man.


In this case, I was also drilling home the fact that I’m from Los Angeles. To a girl in Poland, this is a big deal. Even bigger if she’s young (this one was 19).

There are two cases here where I’m actually getting her to like me just by using basic texting.

“At 2am Poles are just waking up from their afternoon nap.”

She knew I was American, but showing this kind of knowledge about her culture gives me more value. It shows I’m interested in her country. Her traditions. Her life. I’m more than some American sex tourist passing through for a pump and dump.

The second is my final two texts, when I discuss that I’m California. Again, I’m enforcing that I’m from California–major value in a small Polish town. I also mention my impending move, which will undoubtedly make her curious. Baiting her into asking more…

If you want more of this, Tinder and Texting University is for you.


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  1. Dammit, instagram is so fucking gay. (Snapchat too)

    Sorry, not actually disagreeing with any of your advice, the old man in me is just coming out.

      1. Yes. I do. If I ever get back into the dating market, I will consider purchasing it (I did buy your okcupid book!) and I did pretty decent over text but I always used it as a vector to meet asap. Minus my extended comments on your blog, I don’t talk all that much irl which works MUCH better when you can use body language and touch for feedback. I always found text game and tinder game to be a grind even while successful.

        I bet instagram and snapchat are almost required nowadays with younger girls, (who am I kidding, all the early 30’s guys and girls use this shit too) which I begrudgingly will use if single. Gotta do what you gotta do.

        1. I’m still not on SC and only use IG for social media purposes for this blog. Hasn’t affected me. Then again I don’t live in the Western world these days.

          And I wouldn’t want to have to master that stuff to get laid, sheesh!

          1. You don’t have to master it but it doesn’t hurt. Of course the idiot guys love snapchat as much as the idiot women snapping their lives away.

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