How to Dominate a Woman and Own Her Goddamn Soul - This Is Trouble

How to Dominate a Woman and Own Her Goddamn Soul

[DISCLAIMER: This article is only regarding CONSENSUAL sex, obviously. Some people need it spelled out for them.]

I have a confession: at one point, I didn’t understand how to dominate a woman.

Whether or not the sex was truly bad is another story in and of itself, but the point is that I didn’t know how to look deeper into her and give her the experience that all women crave. I did not understand the how and why behind women wanted to be sexually dominated.

And really, it’s hard for any young man to understand that these days with the way that we’re brought up. We’re told that gentle missionary is all that women want.

In reality, you must learn how to dominate a woman.

I might still be ignorant today if not for a girl I was dating, who said something that struck home with me. I had my lightbulb moment. It occurred to me that she, and likely many, many other women – wanted me to sexually dominate them. To own them. To see past their bullshit facade and to take her for my own.

To sexually dominate her until I had fucked all of her stresses, problems, and general life bullshit out of her system. To sexually dominate her until she was left nothing more than a heaping mess on the bed – quivering, with cum running down her legs – a mark showing that she was my fucking bitch.

Do you want to know what she said to me?

“Ughhhh, just rape me already.”

For context: we’d been fooling around a bit and she had playfully been resisting me for a few minutes, saying she wasn’t in the mood, she needed to get ready, and a bunch of other crap that I don’t remember now.

In reality, she wanted me to take her. She wanted me to learn how to dominate a woman. She gave me the keys to the kingdom.

This was my “Aha!” moment.

I knew I needed to learn how to dominate a woman properly.

Women and men take different journeys through their sexual experiences. Don’t get me wrong – we as men can have mind-blowing, passionate sex. And don’t get me wrong (again), it’s far more enjoyable than mundane sex with a fish that can barely flop (been there, done that).

But at the end of the day, as long as we finish – we’re satisfied. The end. The journey is not as important as the finish. Sure, we’ll enjoy the sex more if she’s enthusiastic and clawing at our back, but at the end of the day an orgasm is still an orgasm for us. It has to come out for us to fulfill our masculine destiny, from a biological perspective.

On the contrary, it makes absolutely no difference whatsoever from a reproductive standpoint if women cum or not. I’m not saying this to be selfish, but to be realistic. Sure, you could look at it from a perspective that if she has an orgasm, she’s tighter and more likely to make the man finish, but that argument is grasping at straws.

In reality, for women it’s all about the journey, not the destination.

This is why you must learn how to dominate a woman.

You can give a woman mind-blowing sex without ever giving her an orgasm. No matter how mind-blowing sex is for a man, if he doesn’t finish – it sucks. In fact, it’s downright painful.

TIP: The easiest way to give her an orgasm (from penetration) is to use a sex pillow like this.

The easiest way to make her cum (link)


To allow herself to be dominated a woman must mentally submit.

Read that again.

To dominate a woman she must mentally submit.

She will not mentally submit on her own accord. Quite the opposite, in fact. She will relentlessly test you to the edge of your existence if you don’t take control of the situation. So when I say she must “allow herself” to be sexually dominated, in reality it is up for you to take control and lead her in the proper direction.

From my guide to giving girls multiple orgasms:

Therefore, work on your frame from an emotional sense. Make sure you are leading her at all times – you pick the dates, you tell her when you’re free, etc. Do not show her too much emotion, and be her rock. Hold her close and make her feel safe. If she constantly cuddles up to you and nuzzles herself in, while looking into your eyes like a doe – you’ll know you have her in a situation where she could have a multi orgasm experience.

Again, it’s not about the big O.

It’s about the journey.


Have you seen 50 Shades of Grey?

If not, watch it.

It’s not optional viewing. If you’re so inclined, you can read the book, too. I couldn’t bring myself to finish it.

Why is it mandatory viewing?

Because 50 Shades of Grey is the fastest-selling paperback in the history of the United Kingdom. It sold 125 million copies in four years of being on the market. There’s a reason that it’s so damn popular with women – it lets them experience the journey of a sexually dominant fantasy in an “acceptable” manner, where they don’t look like sluts.

Why don’t they explore it in the bedroom with their partners, you ask?

Because they don’t have the guts or the comprehension to ask their partners for it. Most women can barely admit their raw fantasies to themselves, much less to outsiders. And with the state of masculinity in modern form, their men are too busy marching for feminist rights to be bothered to learn how to sexually dominate a woman.

After you watch 50 Shades of Grey, think about the journey that main character goes on. Looking past the billionaire penthouse and private helicopter rides, that girl is so entranced by him that it is a journey – he literally consumes her.

He owns that girl’s goddamn soul.

He sexually dominates her in every aspect of her life.

So while a girl may not be able to articulate her wants and needs for you to be a sexually dominant male, if you’re able to give her the journey – you own her soul.

It’s that simple.

(Home bondage systems are cheap.)


Doesn’t do anything for you?

It will, because she will be way more into it. Her throws of passion will excite you more and make the sex better – so just suck it up and deal with it, cupcake. If you’re afraid to get rejected by her from using this techniques, then you should take a good look in the mirror.

Don’t like it?



Too bad.

It is not optional to learn how to dominate a woman. This is just one of the first steps that you must make as a man to keep girls around. This is one of the steps you make to have your choice of girl(s). This is a step you must take if you want to be a man.

Otherwise, she’ll always be craving to be sexually dominated, in some form or another. And if you’re not giving her what she needs, then there is a realistic chance she’s going to be looking elsewhere. She’ll find a guy who knows how to dominate a woman. And she’ll never look back.

Or…you could be the one doing the choosing.

The one dictating the when, where, and frequency of sex.

The one she is constantly trying to please by serving you.

The one who is her drug that she needs.

The one who owns her soul.

Are you the one?

Will you step up to the plate?

The choice is yours.


Kyle Trouble

I'm Kyle "Trouble". I'm a former computer engineer who left the 9-5 in LA at 24 years old and moved to Eastern Europe. I blog about dating, life abroad, and building successful and scalable streams of income.

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Izzy - March 22, 2016

Is the dating spreadsheet available for those who bought the book for Kindle?

    Kyle [] - March 22, 2016

    I can’t bundle it as a downloadable item with Amazon obviously, but shoot me an email and I’ll take care of you.

    [email protected]

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Roberr - March 28, 2017

I met a women who is in to being spanked and dominated I never done this but always wanted to any help is appreciated

    Kyle Trouble - March 28, 2017

    Well, did you read the post?

    D - February 15, 2018

    Spank her when she behaves or acts in a way you disaprove of and then make her suck your cock. She may never admit it, but if you can do this with confidence and love then you will both like it. Let her know she is yours and then take care of her as a man should. Court her and lead her.

      Kyle Trouble - February 18, 2018

      I approve this comment.

Richard Winstanley - May 8, 2017

It helps a body to wake up an smell the roses. Thanks.

    Kyle Trouble - May 8, 2017

    No prob.

likealake - July 14, 2017

An approach i used to use..ignore that feminine wyle immediately after you perceive their “test”…act neither negatively or positively/black or white and you got all 50 shades of grey on tap so be prepared. Its much more satisfying being asked for it….though since i married I had to change the game but hey….

That’s some 3rd eye logic.

Olivia - July 20, 2017

…in 50 shades of grey he literally rapes her. It’s not proper BDSM smh you vanillas are getting the wrong idea

    Andie - June 10, 2018

    I agree with Olivia. As a Pro BDSM, i strongly dominance should come with consent.

      Ken - March 17, 2019

      Dominance is best with consent other wise it is just abuse

        Kyle Trouble - July 23, 2019

        All sex on this site is about consensual

    M - July 23, 2019

    Yeah. He`s just a weakling trying to be a tough guy. You can clearly see that she is not having any fun. The article is great.

      Kyle Trouble - July 23, 2019

      who you talking to?

Jj - October 30, 2017

Look i love eating pussy. Sure i like a deep throut. But dam i love to eat her pussy. So help me here. 10 years got me

    Kyle Trouble - November 1, 2017

    Cool story bro.

Trevor - November 3, 2017

Dude I love the post and I totally agree with what you are saying? But how do I actually learn how to make a women submit. What are some actionable steps? For example I get that you need to pass their tests but how do you do that in a relationship for example. I share an apartment with my girlfriend and its been a busy year and I have let myself go frame wise a bit by failing a few more tests than usual. The recent problem is that when we are in bed in the morning. She will get aroused and moan and feel me up while I feel her up. Then I try to pull of her panties to have sex with her and she will belt out a list of excuses like I have to finish a paper thats due and I really have to get up and get ready and I dont want to do this. I will say things like ” youre right the whole world will end if you hang out with me for 5 min” or just stay with me for a few min.” She will ignore and get right up and leave to finish her paper. I am aware she wanted me to make her submit and dominante her then obviously, but how do I actually do it stepwise or even mindset wise?

    Kyle Trouble - November 5, 2017

    Hey man, start here:

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Jeanpierre - July 20, 2018

Thanks.. You’re right 100%.. Extremely interesting information..))

Ken - March 17, 2019

Look plain and simple you want to dominate a women. Learn hypnosis, then hypnotize her, start with simple scripts, then gradually use more forceful scripts. Eventually once you master this technique, you can have that dumb bitch so afraid to lose you, she will goto any lengths to make you happy

chay - July 28, 2019

you’re so clueless with a real woman its laughable

    Kyle Trouble - July 28, 2019

    Assuming you are a woman your opinion is worth nothing.


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