I’ve recently passed the four month mark of living abroad, building my business, and leaving America in the rearview mirror.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: you CANNOT do it all, all the time.
For example, I went on a banging spree in Kraków, Poland. I banged four new girls in the first twelve days, drank way too much, and pretty much got zero work done.
In Kyiv, I met a great girl and we’re still together. We saw each other about every other day, which enabled me to get a ton of work done. It was one of the more productive months of my life, in all honesty.
Sure, we did fun stuff like go to Chernobyl and the former Ukrainian president’s mansion.
But for the most part, I was buckled down and it enabled me to make The Harem Handbook into a killer, polished product.
And the reviews of it attest to that.
After that, I moved on to Odessa–which, as I’ve discussed before, was very much a de-motivating town with no hustle and bustle. I was so bored, in fact (and partially coming down from the Handbook launch), that I ended up booking a side trip to Istanbul–where obviously, I got nothing done work-wise.
IMPORTANCE OF A HOME BASE FOR AN ENTREPRENEUR
Simply put, when you decide to make the leap and build an online business, you’re going to have to find a balance.
If you’re traveling around and seeing the world, it’s natural to want to do this. And frankly, with the costs in America, it’s hard to find a reason to stay there and build a business. Especially when location independence and a powerful US dollar are calling your name abroad.
You’re going to want to have fun and adventure.
But, you MUST actually do some work. It’s too easy to fall into the “Hey, I’m free now…I can do whatever I want. LITERALLY WHATEVER I WANT” mindset, and that is a dangerous place to be.
almost no work gets done.
It’s too easy to sleep in until eleven in the morning. We all know winners rise far earlier than that.
It’s too easy to go out and have a beer every night. And because you’re a charming bastard, it then becomes too easy to make new friends and turn it into a night full of adventure.
Every new place a new adventure awaits.
THAT MEANS EVERY NEW PLACE IS LESS FOCUS
This is why a home base is important.
It should have a good balance. Some new things to do and adventure about, a city full of hustle, and ideally–a place that you simply “click” with.
It’s hard to explain, but there are certain countries and cities that certain men just click with.
Country chemistry is what I’ve deemed it.
Of course, to find this, you have to experiment a bit. It’s why it’s a good idea to do some travel abroad before you make a huge leap like I did.
However, it doesn’t mean you have to see everywhere in the world.
Pick a place you like, that has some beauty and hustle, and settle down there.
I’m heading back to Kyiv after August 17th, and I can’t wait.
From July 14th to August 17th, I’ll have gone to Kyiv, Warsaw, Kraków, Venice, Maranello, Prague, Orleans, Paris, and Vilnius.
Just writing that sentence made me exhausted.
And sure, I’m on a family trip that has been planned forever, and I’ve enjoyed it.
But the Troublesome business productivity has slowed down significantly during that time. I was fortunate enough to get pretty far ahead before all of that.
A budding business has no place for instability or chaos. It needs routine, consistency, and dedication. This can only be accomplished by having a permanent home base that you love and can have a decent work/life balance.
WORK/LIFE BALANCE IS BULLSHIT
The best months of this blog were when I was working 15 hour days. I did this as preparation for moving abroad, when I quit the corporate America life but before I got on a plane overseas.
I knew I wanted to have some fun and so I got way the hell ahead of everything that could possibly come my way.
If you love your work there is no need for balance.
BUT, you do still need a city that you like so that you can get fresh air from time to time.
FYI, there is a hint in the image of this post as to what my new permanent home is shaping up to be…
While I won’t call that work/life balance (which is corporate slang for slave driving you), you do need to get out of the damn house. Go work in a nice cafe for an hour or two a day.
BONUS TIP: FINDING AN APARTMENT
The final bit of advice I can give is that you need an apartment that you enjoy. There needs to be natural light, and a good place to work on your computer.
Some people say you should go work in cafes while abroad. That’s bullshit. If you want true, 100% focus, you need your own quiet space.
I often save my menial work (emails, editing, blog graphics, Twitter) for cafe time. My real dedicated writing and focus time ALWAYS comes from my home office or kitchen table. It simply doesn’t work otherwise.
Those who tell you that cafes are 100% sustainable for building a business are full of crap.
Focus is key.
I would recommend anyone take the leap at some point. Build an online business–but maybe not a blog.
Learn how to be abundant in girls, life, and wealth. Live. Adventure to land where the women are feminine, and the men are masculine.
Simply put, it’s an experience you’ll never get while living in a cubicle jail cell.
PS: Men work hard to get women. It’s why we build businesses. Don’t kid yourself. So master women the right way.
“I banged four new girls in the first twelve days, drank way too much, and pretty much got zero work done… routine, consistency, and dedication. This can only be accomplished by having a permanent home base that you love and can have a decent work/life balance.”
So true Kyle. Just got back from vacation and even though I took my laptop with me, jack shit got done. I realied how much I loke routine and getting shit done. Chasing/Banging women is way more time consuming than people realize lol.
I want to start to not even bother to bring my laptop on vacation with me. It’s pretty bad!
And yes it can be a time sink. Passive game is necessary.
For the past few months I’ve been going to the cafe almost daily. I get a lot of work done there. But over the past two weeks I decided to work from one of my offices at my house. To my amazement, I’m getting more done.
I agree with you Kyle 10000% that having your own quite spot is SUPER important.
Yep, you nailed it.
Have you done any actual numbers analysis? Like how much you got done in the cafe versus at home? Would be interesting to hear those kind of things if they’re available.
I’ve always felt almost the opposite on the home base issue. I think this is a topic that could vary person to person. For example, when going through the tedious process of writing a novel, I got almost DOUBLE the work done at a Starbucks compared to my home. The reason was work at the cafe felt more isolated than in my empty apartment.
For instance, when I was working from home I found that every little thing became a potential distraction. Every dirty dish, every unwashed article of clothing, every little thing out of place anywhere, would all of a sudden become something I had to get done. And it really didn’t need to get done, I was just tired of writing so my brain made it so. When I was at a Starbucks or what have you, I was already away from my home and there was nothing else to do BUT write. So when I got tired I’d check my watch and say, “still have two more hours, better get to it…” But if I was at home, I would be like, “but that vacuuming, though…” I found this to consistently be an issue.
In jibing with the article, the coffee shops I visited did become a home base strictly for getting work done. Much the same way we go to the gym to lift weights, I went to the coffee shop to work. Period. And, for me, that made focusing easier. So I am in agreement that a home base is definitely necessary.
Wait though (and this is honest I’m not trying to be a dick, ha!), were you living on people’s couches for a few months there while you figured out the whole novel deal?
I do see what you mean though. There is an extreme opposite spectrum that you’ve described here. People who can’t work at home. I still do believe though that you have to get a handle on how to be productive at home. For example, when the snow picks up and winter comes…having to go to the coffee shop to work is just one more reason to procrastinate.
No offense taken. My origin story is going to be a humble one haha. While writing novel one I was gainfully employed and pretty well off. Not so much while working on novel two. You are pretty spot on with your question- I was working out of friend’s and family’s spare rooms and offices for novel two. It had a similar effect to going to a coffee shop: Their home was not my mess to clean up and all I had to focus on was the writing.
Ahh that makes more sense then. Have you toyed around with nootropics at all?
Nuh uh. Not sure what that is.
See here: https://thisistrouble.com/2016/02/29/adrafinil-reviews-moda-little-bro/
& here: https://thisistrouble.com/2016/04/11/modafinil-experience/
Thanks. That stuff sounds incredible. Read both articles.
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