Every year about this time I get the questions along the lines of:
“Kyle, how do you feeling about Valentine’s Day? How do you handle it?”
And I realize that maybe I should have written this email before today, but sue me.
Use it next year.
In any case:
In these specific times my case is a bit unique. Because my girl is from Ukraine, International Women’s Day is a big deal. So, I told her it was one or the other. She wasn’t getting both of ’em, in any circumstance.
She chose IWD.
So, I do not have a care to give about this day, these days.
But I do remember when a past girlfriend had a birthday around February 6th. It was terrible.
All in a span of 7 weeks.
Needless to say there had to be some laws laid down in that relationship, too. Not so much banning them like I did to the current girl (I’m getting meaner these days), but simply laying down expectations that there were not going to be elaborate things going on during all of them. And she took it okay, because I had the frame and upper hand in that relationship.
Frankly, that’s the easiest way to deal with it.
Lay down the law + enforce it. This podcast will help:
Do not budge under any circumstances. The problem though, is that most guys will budge. And it won’t take much more than a simply push from her to turn him into a sappy soyboy.
Respect for him?
It’s now gone and buried in the Sahara Desert that is now represented by her dry vuh-gina.
So, morale of the story:
Treat Vday how you want to treat it, and be very clear about how you want it to go down. If you actually like your girl, you may want to actually do something for her. That doesn’t mean you need to drop $100s on elaborate dinners and stupid stuff to impress. It means you do what you want to do as an acknowledgment of your relationship.
In any case, if you really want to learn how to pull all this “frame” stuff off.
Get your hands on The Harem Handbook.
It’s more expensive than your average Valentine’s Day dinner but worth far more than the shitty 3-course meal you’ll consume and butt vomit out later.
Details at the link below:
Keep causing Trouble & Happy VDay,