Players have dry spells. There is simply no way around it.
There comes a point where each and every one of us has one of these dreaded dry spells, where you just can’t seem to get a girl on a date, much less get laid – to save your life. I’ve been there and been through it, and it’s just one of those things you come to terms with the longer you play the game.
But regardless, they still suck. So here’s what you can do to end you dry spell and get back in the game, stronger than ever.
Porn = Low Motivation = Dry Spells
You should not be watching porn under any condition. There are many, many studies out there that prove that porn is absolutely horrendous for a man’s libido and overall health. A little bit of Googling about the subject will provide enough reading material to put you to sleep instead of jerking one off to a BBW gangbang video.
If you need further proof, let me provide my experience.
When I stopped watching porn several years ago, I noticed immediate results. I was happier, less moody, more motivated, and had a healthier (albeit not higher) sex drive. I had noticed I was watching increasingly more “hardcore” stuff as the years went on. No longer was it enough to watch one pretty girl have relatively “normal” sex. No, now it was all about gangbangs, orgies, and increasingly more graphic porn clips. Thankfully I got a grip on it before I started venturing into something really weird like GILF porn or horse dicks.
I realize that nobody is perfect. While I have always broken habits by simply going cold turkey, I recognize that not everybody is cut from the same cloth. Do what works for you, but you should really try to weed off the porn, if not quit entirely. This will increase your desire to approach and end your dry spells.
While I would encourage you to quit entirely, I also am a firm believer that everything in moderation is usually okay. If you want to watch porn once or twice a month, it’s probably not going to make a huge difference in your quality of life.
Once or twice a day though? Different story. Stop this immediately.
Go No Fap to End Dry Spells
Jerking off and watching porn probably go hand in hand for most people.
If you want to end your dry spell, and get laid more in general – you should really tone down your fapping. And again, if you must do it – do it without the porn.
There’s no telling to what ends you will go if you stop fapping. It has to come out some how, that’s why wet dreams exist. So if your only option for relief is to find a woman, you’re much, much more likely to work hard for a woman. One of my friends hasn’t fapped in nearly three years, and he has by far the most motivation out of anyone I’ve ever met to stay at a club to be the last man standing.
Personally, I start getting a bit…twitchy, after about three days of not having an orgasm. Once I hit that three day mark, I begin to get everything firing on all cylinders. I open up OkCupid and Tinder. I go out at night. I’ll be more motivated to make a stop in the mall on my way home from work. Overall, it just makes me much more aggressive.
Now, there is a caveat for this. As I’ve said before, women shouldn’t be the complete focus of your life. There are times where you are better off fapping as needed (too much will kill your overall motivation) and dedicating yourself to your other pursuits. For me, this is one of those times. It was the holidays, and many prospects are heading home (in Los Angeles there aren’t many ‘born and raised’ people) for the holidays to see their families and fatten up.
Pussy can be seasonal at times.
I have a consistent girl right now, who I see 2-3x a week, so I’m not in a dry spell per se. But if I’m not going to see her for a few days and I get the urge, I’d rather take care of it once a week and get back to building my businesses. Right now, that’s more important to me than chasing tail. If it was summer though, and prospects were higher in quantity (and hornier – summer makes girls horny) – it might be a different story.
Use your best instincts.
Always Be Opening to Avoid Dry Spells
The best way to end a dry spell is to simply never get into one to begin with. The game is full of highs and lows. One week you’ll have a dozen prospects and be drowning in girls, the next month you all of a sudden have zero prospects.
So, do a bit every day.
One approach either at day or at night.
One approach doesn’t count for much with online dating, so make it a goal to get one number a day off of online dating. Or to at least send five messages.
Ping one lead a day.
Go on one date a day, if you’re extreme.
In a nutshell: don’t let yourself run into a situation where you have no leads going for you. And if you need motivation to start building them up again, adhere to numbers 1 & 2 of this article.
Make It A Mission
In it, he wrote:
Make it a priority
If you’re reading a post about how to get laid more – then I have to assume you are making your love life a priority. This is the first step. You don’t have to make getting more girls the number one priority in your life. Actually, that would be counterproductive. You just need to commit to putting in a real effort at chasing chicks.
Throw your ego out the door. This means fucking anything that gives you a hard on for a certain period of time. The boner test should be in full effect. Everything above a “six” is bangable when you’re trying to get laid more often. Real playboys follow the “always be fucking” school of thought more often than not. I can’t tell you how many times I’d bang a “six” in the early evening before heading out. And then when I was out I’d pull or meet a girl I’d end up sleeping with a chick who was hot as fuck. Chicks can smell the stink on you. Trust me.
He has a great point. The best thing you can do to end a dry spell is to simply make it a high priority. And your sex life should be a high priority (within reason).
And frankly – while I think every man should have standards, be realistic. If you haven’t gotten your dick wet in six months, it doesn’t need to be a Victoria’s Secret model. You don’t need to fuck a cow, but if you’re consistently having dry spells, you need to learn to take the easy ones when they come. It will help you with the hotter ones, as my friend pointed out.
Dry Spells Bottom Line
Stop watching porn, as it will kill your motivation. Sure, your nuts will be drained but from a perspective of actually having sex, you’ll end up in dry spells.
To go extreme, go no fap.
Always be building new leads and keeping girls in rotation.
Make it a priority to get your sex life under control. My new Harem Handbook system will help you accomplish this.
And finally…here’s one last piece of motivation to help you end your dry spells 😉