Make sure you go back and give it a read. Otherwise this one won’t make a ton of sense.
Anyways, after I botched the kiss on the beach and seemed destined to die a virgin, I did figure things out.
I got a girlfriend, she ended up being crazy and was the true catalyst for this blog, but I did get the “no kiss” monkey off my back (though it still took years to lose my V card).
But after that happened, I got on a roll with the ladies.
And that was around the time I finished school, got the hotshot job, and bought a sexy new Mustang.
After I’d been with half a dozen girls (or maybe it was more), I somehow ended up in touch with her again.
I honestly don’t know how – I think she liked a few of my photos (welcome to flirting in 2013), and then I sent her a message.
I was totally confident in my newfound texting and game abilities, and it was almost tooeasy to get her out on a date. I picked her up in the Mustang (“Wowwwwww, you’ve moved up in the world”), and we went to the local pub and pizza spot near the beach.
I never made a move. Again.
But this time, it wasn’t a lack of fear.
This time, I was able to actually think outside of the pressures of trying to kiss her, and I realized something.
We had absolutely zero chemistry to begin with.
We got along fine, but that spark that makes you and drives you to make a move on a girl was totally missing.
I don’t know what it was, but in that moment I understood that there are girls you just click with and some girls you just don’t (even if they’re cute as a button).
I stopped beating myself for that failure in the years before, and was able to let go of it (I think my thoughts were that if I’d made a move, I would have banged her within a few weeks, and gotten all of the monkeys off my back my freshmen year of college instead of after graduation).
I realized that sometimes you are better off letting a girl go.
In her case, I’m fairly certain she found a long-term boyfriend, and I believe they’re married now (or at least engaged). Hopefully she eventually has the family she always wanted, and finds happiness in her life.
I am at peace with having not tried.
There are a lot of girls out there in the world.
To learn how to let them go, click here.
Keep causing Trouble,