This happened to me a few weeks ago:
I’m walking down the street in between my two buddies. I’m rocking a navy blue blazer, sharp dress shoes, and perfectly groomed facial hair. As I’m walking, a cute girl makes eye contact with me. She’s about 5’7″, with a killer body and long, brown hair. As I walk closer to her, I flash a smile. She returns it. As I’m nearing here, about to walk past, she grabs my arm and stops me. I turn my body slowly, and look at her.
“Wow, you have…really pretty eyes,” she says, in a coy manner.
What would you say?
“I doubt it’s my eyes you’re thinking about right now. “
Hmm…too cocky for my tastes.
Facial expression, body language, and tone are critical if you use that as a response.
My game is always cocky. I was at a bar a while back with my boy McMurphy and a cute girl locked eyes with me as I was walking down the stairs, then she turned back to the bar. I walked up behind her and placed my hands on the bar on either side of her, putting my body against her and her inside my arms, and ordered a drink, then said hi.
Worked like a charm.
“Thanks, I got them for my birthday.” “So, where are you headed?”
First thing, my “she wants to fuck” alarm would be going off.
Since she initiated the physical contact, I would escalate it a bit, maybe put my hand on her hip.
I have no immediate witty remark off her opener so I’d say a simple “thank you” and comment on how confident/brave she was to approach me. Then flow into normal game, maybe a brief cold read or tease based on what she’s wearing or her ethnicity, followed by the ‘what are you doing tonight’ feeling out.
My friends would hopefully wait and talk amongst themselves until they were introduced, preferably around the 3 minute mark, any more might be socially awkward. It’s good to have game-trained friends. But seeing how its 3 on 1, if they swarm and both try to run game/get attention, they can blow it for you. Hopefully when they join the conversation they know enough to defer to my leadership and cut back a little on the friendly teasing until the girl is more assimilated into the group’s vibe.
Then invite her to join where we’re going (if possible) and run autopilot don’t fuck it up game, she approached me for fucks sake. Make callback humor about my “pretty eyes” and frame her as the pursuer all night. Escalate physically while denying it verbally “I’d never make out with a girl I met on the street”
This is same night lay material, so I’m pulling out all stops not to settle for a phone number. Condom up.
Of course, I have boring brown eyes so this situation wouldn’t happen to me, a cute girl is far more likely to comment on my bulge.
“The better to see you, my dear.”
But….what do you expect her to say in response to that?
I don’t expect her to say anything other than a smile back and then I’ll take over…but if she does say something or knows what I’m referring to I’ll continue the ad lib montage.
But, why take over when you’ve been automatically put in a position of power?
Why not let her run wild?
“But, why take over when you’ve been automatically put in a position of power?”
And here I thought I was always automatically in the position of power.
If she likes what she is seeing…as long as I don’t profess my undying love for her right there or that she is the greatest thing since sliced bread, I just roll with what comes off my tongue.
Besides if she is one of the few girls who knows what I’m referring to…I can play the big bad wolf angle. I do have noticeable ears and teeth she can comment on.
“Thanks, yeah I’ve been working on those”
all the better to see you with my dear
You have good taste my dear.
How do you follow that up?
Since she opened me, the ball’s in her court. I’m not going to go all “kino” and “cold reading” on her. She’s obviously massively into me, so I can afford to be cool.
If she doesn’t say anything else, I’d just ask “Can I help you?” – the key being to not spunk in my pants that a cute girl opened me. Act like it’s nothing, happens all the time.
She’d either re-engage, or if she said “I just wanted to tell you that”, then that’d be your cue to run with things a bit. “It’s great that you have the confidence to come up to a guy and compliment him. What’s your name?”
Blah blah, small talk. “Well, I’m on my way to grab a coffee, come with me.” Once on the insta-date, standard date routine.
Really no need to overcomplicate anything. Just be normal, friendly and cool.
“Thanks, I workout.”
That’s actually brilliant.
Best one so far
This one’s easy to overthink, but the reality is that she’s just thrown you a softball. It’s yours to fuck up.
“Thanks. What’s your name?”
Comfortably look her directly in the eye from the short distance between you so that you can see the details of her iris. She will be looking directly in your eyes that she thinks are so pretty. The way you comfortably and unflinchingly maintain eye contact will come off as calm and powerful to her. Say nothing but make sure you have a smirk on your face. When the pregnant pause of your silent eye contact is too much, lean in slowly as if to whisper a secret to her. Pause as you get close. Wait slightly for her anticipation to rise. Then say something. Doesn’t matter what so much. Maybe “My eyes are just the start”.
Pull away from her, pull out your phone, hand it to her, tell her, ” Put your number in here. I’m going someplace now” (*NB put it in ‘notes’ or something so you don’t forget her name and can’t find her number later). After she puts her number in check to see if she put her name there too. If it’s not there, ask. Tell her you name. Walk off.
If there is enough sexual tension for a kiss, Lean in like you may be about to kiss her on the cheek. Get close, whisper “Bye” with a smile, about face and walk off without looking back.
When you get to venue text game and go for same night date/lay.
(If it weren’t for the friends there you could change it up and go for a makeout or instadate).
Note: What you actually say here isn’t as important as how you handle yourself and your frame. Just don’t say anything stupid. Your goal here is to amplify attraction (that is already there) and logistics (ph#, meeting up that night).
reply- “i know.” and smile.
then ask her if she makes a habit of compliments random guys eyes. her response is irrelevant. hand her your phone and tell her to punch in her number. ask her name, NEVER give your name until she asks.
tell her you’re in the middle of something and she’ll hear from you soon.
if you’ve got some free time ask what she’s doing and take her somewhere to chat. if the IOI’s and kino is there, tell her you know she’s waiting for you to kiss her. if she doesn’t say anything and just smiles. make your move. ask her where she lives, then tell her you’d love to see her place.
Grab her hand and give her a half spin, check out her ass, then spin her back facing you.
“Wow, you have … really nice hair”
Your boys know whats up, they suddenly have places to be.
Not bad at all.
I’ve gotten good results (like blushing and visible tingles) with a smirk and, “I can hear what you are thinking…”
But Danny’s response is pretty solid Han Solo game…