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The Conflict of Interest Between Men and Women

Yin and yang.

Men and women.

Contrary to what most people in the media would like you to believe, men and women are different. And whether it’s right or wrong, it simply is what it is. The problem is that many in society are unable to accept that.

But that’s not the point of this article. There is no sense in arguing with the points made in the above paragraph, because the rest of this post assumes that you believe the above. In addition, that you are willing to accept this unconditionally and move forward with the rest of your life armed with this knowledge.

For better or worse. Now, to the point:

I have two friends whom I met in Ukraine last year.

Both of them are reaching the end of their “player shelf life”, or at least that’s what they thought…

I believe(d) them.

Let’s Start With Friend #1

Traveled all over the world, been with tons of different girls (hundreds). Been to just about every continent, done plenty of crazy things. Finally at the end of last year, he returned home after having not been Stateside for almost three years.

For that period of time, he made income from previous endeavors, but not as much as he would have liked. He always talked about wanting to make more money and to focus on that, but more often than not girls and travel got in the way. He talked about wanting to focus on work, so…

He “imported” a model (not an actual model, but she’s sexy) from Ukraine on a short-term tourist visa. And I do mean import…straight to living with him in a one-bedroom apartment and doing everything together. 24/7.

One month later, she’s gone. Her back to Ukraine, and him to the road.

He’s happy as a clam and about to hit the road again, with no regrets. I don’t know how she is.

Friend #2

Traveled all over the world, been with tons of different girls (hundreds). Been to just about every continent, done plenty of crazy things. Finally, this year he decided it was time to settle down and focus on work.

For that period of time, he made income from previous endeavors, but not as much as he would have liked. He always talked about wanting to make more money and to focus on that, but more often than not girls and travel got in the way. He talked about wanting to focus on work, so…

And then he “imported” a model (not an actual model, but she’s sexy) from Russia to live with him in Southeast Asia. And I do mean import…straight to living with him in a one-bedroom apartment and doing everything together. 24/7.

Weeks later, she’s gone. Her back to Russia and him…to a new Asian city and country for the Xth time.

He’s happy as a clam and glad to hit the road again, with no regrets. I don’t know how she is.

Truths About Women

Truth #1: Chasing girls will distract you from work and pursuing whatever your business and financial goals are.

Truth #2: A single girl who is a soul-sucker will distract you from work and pursuing whatever your business and financial goals are. Far worse than the girl in Truth #1.

Truth #3: I think it becomes increasingly difficult for men to settle, bond, and do all that cheesy family stuff the more they travel and bang around.

Is that a bad thing?

I’d wager that for MOST…yes. Not many are truly able to do that forever. And even fewer would be happy to do that. Now, this may seem like a self-fulfilling prophecy considering I’ve domesticated up and been all about the troublesome business for the last year or so, but hear me out.

Even fewer are the number that can live that hedonistic life for a long time (read: 3 years + straight), and then return to a “normal” life. It’s too shocking. About as shocking as moving to a new country and getting acclimated. And yes, regardless of what anyone tells you, girls take a lot of focus away from your work.

My business (read: this blog and related sites) are now a six-figure business (averaging the last 6 months) that I was able to build up by working non-stop for nearly two years. And that’s a passive business I run from my laptop, waking up whenever I please and answering to no one.

And I would be the first to tell you that if not for my girl being cool, it wouldn’t have been possible.

If I’d spent the last year and change traveling around every month, going out multiple times a week—my business would still be sitting at the $2-$3k a month range instead of the $10k range.

I talked to both of them extensively as their situations were playing out, and the similarities were striking to me.

The Conflict Of Interest

The thing that is most interesting to me, is that supposedly the conflict of interest between both of these couples was almost non-existent. Both of the girls wanted a stable relationship and the potential to build a future together. Both of the men wanted to focus on business and increase their net worth.

Oh, you could easily make the argument that the girls were foolish for making the leaps themselves. After all, neither relationship was even an exclusive thing, nor was there a real basis of living together. Both girls made the risky leap to leave their home countries and try to make things work in these new countries. Of course, that economic disparity between places like Ukraine and Russia versus the United States is striking.

It encourages the girls to take those kind of risks.

This isn’t knocking those two friends, merely pointing out that sometimes even the conflict of interest between relationships, when perfectly aligned, simply doesn’t work out. In this case, both parties seemed to be working towards a mutual goal, and made steps to accomplish it.

What it does prove is that old habits die hard. That sense of crushing freedom when you’re spending so much time with a girl is enough to drive any man to the brink. Even if it means throwing away a good thing in the process. And even if that good thing was only a temporary stop as a means to an end with business.

One could argue the girls didn’t do enough for themselves.

Perhaps if they’d made local friends and had the ability to do things on their own, the guys would have felt less trapped. But the more I live, the more I realize that girls are almost incapable of this. Most don’t keep friends into adulthood—they either have childhood friends, or struggle to make new ones. The only social situations they are truly masters of are when guys hit on them. When it comes time for them to make the first move and make friends with other fellow females, they just can’t.

Don’t ask me why.

The majority of girls are not completely self-sufficient, no matter how hard they try to be. Perhaps if these two girls had shown an ounce of self-sufficiency, neither would have been on a plane back to their homeland after a short period of trying.

By their very nature, though, women are dependent on men. So perhaps the conflict of interest is not working towards opposing goals. Perhaps the entire conflict of interest between men and women is women needing men, and men wanting women to need less.

And perhaps it’s time that we stop trying to kid ourselves about that ever changing.

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  • November 27, 2017
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