(This originally appeared as a guest post on my friend Goldmund’s site. His game advice is some of the best out there, and I’ve met him personally in NYC and had a blast. If you’re in New York, check out his coaching packages on his sexy website (designed by yours truly)—Experience NYC Adventure.)
Ahh, harems. The pinnacle of modern game. What every man aspires to have once he starts going down the rabbit hole. Making the approaches. Taking the rejections. Escalating an interaction and making it smooth as butter. The most natural thing in the world.
Perhaps some guys start out in game with full intentions of just finding a girlfriend. Actually, I think many of us do start out by desiring this. But once you start to have the experiences that make you feel more alive than ever—you realize you don’t want them to stop.
Having a harem goes beyond just having sex with multiple women, though. Acquiring and managing a harem will hands-down teach you how to be a better man. The impact of it will resonate throughout your entire life. It will teach you how to handle the emotions that women throw at you. It will teach you how to walk away from bad situations.
And most of all?
It’ll teach you complete outcome independence—where everything else in life just seems easy. With that being said, let’s break these areas down individually. By the end of this article, there should be no doubt in your mind.
Every man should have a harem at one point in his life.
You know that feeling when you have one girl you’re truly enamored with? You just can’t get her out of your mind. Her perfume lingers on you all day, and you spend a bit too much time daydreaming about your future with her.
What happens when she suddenly drops off the radar one day?
Your entire world comes crashing down on you. All of a sudden, you’re left with nothing. Needless to say, if you were running a harem—it wouldn’t be the end of the world. You’d simply call one of your other ladies up and move on, eventually replacing her.
The same harem mindset applies to business. If you put all of your eggs into one basket, and that basket breaks, you’re doomed. Everybody knows that you never invest all of your money into a single stock. Well, having a harem is a similar concept—except it’s more like you don’t invest your basket into just one egg.
Teaching yourself to diversify and not let outside forces control your destiny is a powerful tool.
There are so many things in life that men should just walk away from.
Crazy girlfriends. Bad business decisions. Over-possessive mothers hell bent on continuing to raise you like a schmuck well after you’ve left the house.
Too many men spend their entire life getting dumped by a girl they should have dumped LONG ago. They refuse to walk away from a toxic and poisonous relationship because they don’t know when the next one will fall into their lap.
Sometimes business projects don’t go your way. It took me several books and failed websites before I started seeing success with some current projects. If I’d married those original projects, I’d still be going down a path towards giving up my time and yet still losing money.
The point is, having a harem teaches you to be outcome independent and to walk away from situations. If you refuse to see the light and get out, you just get dragged further into darkness. Dating multiple women will give you the courage to walk away from bad situations throughout life.
There’s one thing I’ve learned throughout the years: nobody is ever going to do it for you. Most of the time, what you make out of life is going to come from what you did for yourself. Most people are inherently selfish, and those who claim to be unselfish are just bullshitting you.
The most powerful thing a man can do is simply to put his fate in his own hands. When you have a harem, you start to realize the truth in this. If you’re a guy with a high sex drive and your monogamous girlfriend decides she has a headache all-too-often, you’re left with full balls and no options.
If you have a harem, you completely control your destiny. Girls are going to know that they can’t away with the headache excuse, else you’ll simply go sleep with someone else.
Just do it for you and you’ll find that the results will be spectacular. I’ve run multiple harems (with some LTRs in between) since I got into game all of those years ago. There is little doubt in my mind that I would not have the business, relationship, and overall success if I hadn’t learned to run a harem.
Being able to successfully run a harem (and it’s not easy!) puts you at the top of the food chain. Once you’ve reached a point where you’re consistently sleeping with 3, 4, or 5 girls—you realize that you’re living the life that only kings lived in the past. And kings were successful in every area of life. Not just women.
Running a harem gives you those foundational skills. Are you ready to claim your throne?