Finality and the Hurdle
It’s always the hardest part.
The last hurdle. The final touches. The last step to success.
Many people fear success.
This time around, I’m not sure what the case is. I’ve just finished the final touches of The Harem Handbook, now it’s just a matter of doing more reviews, any final tweaks, and just waiting for launch day.
Which is June 6th, by the way 😉
When I released my first couple books, the fear was…well, failure. And some of them have failed, and some have done very well. In hindsight, it’s very obvious why the failed ones did fail. I was just a naive 22 year old who wanted to put his stamp on the world in any way possible as opposed to solving a problem for someone.
Solving problems is what makes the world go round.
Why do coffee shops succeed? Because people are tired from their dreary 9-5 office job, so they need caffeine.
Why do lawyers succeed? Because people do stupid shit and need someone smarter to save them.
The Harem Handbook truly does solve problems for men. I have poured my heart and soul into this since I wrote the first draft of the book in December. Then I decided that wasn’t good enough. I needed to do more to change the world. I needed to truly solve the problem.
And I have.
But now that the finality is starting to seek in, I don’t know what to think. I have breathed and lived this project in one way or another for the last six months (on top of, you know – quitting my job and moving across the world).
The final hurdle has been cleared. It feels really fucking good, and also a bit disappointing in a way. Much like how when people retire, they feel sometimes let down. Or depressed. They don’t know what to do with their life.
While I’m certainly not depressed, I am in a slight state of limbo. I can do anything I want now. This is the new reality: when I first started this project I was still involved in the corporate job. Now I am truly free, and for the first time I am free and don’t have a pressing project and obsession.
Right now, there is just nothing. Today I went for a long walk along the river of Kyiv, and really didn’t know what I was doing with my life.
You can listen to my thoughts about Ukrainian dating culture here:
It was a weird feeling, but kind of nice. At least for a temporary state – this kind of feeling in a consistent way would drive me insane.
As of writing this, it’s down to thirteen days until launch. I will put my foot back on the gas until it’s launched, and then obviously will be very busy in the days after making sure everything is running at 110% perfection.
After that, I will probably take a week and lay out on the beaches of Odessa, Ukraine. I will probably drink too much and cause some trouble. I will probably write about it and people will enjoy it.
And then I will find a new obsession which will consume me yet again.
Just another hurdle to clear.
Are you ready?
PS: The course is launching for 48 hours at $97. This special pricing is a one time only deal and will not last.