Let’s say you’ve got a beautiful girl you’re on a date with, 1on1. Alternatively, you just met her at the bar – but she’s with half a dozen of her mother hen girlfriends.
In both situations, you need to give her plausible deniability. A reason to have sex with you – but that reason can’t be sex.
No matter if you are, because it’s rare that a seduction ever follows a perfectly logical order. In reality, it’s more of a zig-zagging maze. A puzzle you must piece together. To give her plausible deniability is to give her a reason to have sex with you, but while removing all of the guilt of doing so. While men don’t usually feel guilty for having sex, it’s not the case with women. They very much feel guilt, shame, and more. It’s akin to watching porn for men – you know the feeling after wanking it to increasingly disturbing levels of porn?
(You shouldn’t watch porn but that’s another discussion for another place.)
You feel ashamed of yourself – you’ll think that you’re better than that. Well, it’s the same for women if you don’t give her plausible deniability to have sex with you.
Frankly, it can be anything.
As long as it’s not sex. You cannot utter that word.
Have you ever pulled a girl from a club by saying, “Come home with me so we can have animalistic sex all night?”
Sure, it has it’s time and place, but generally speaking, it’s too overt. The majority of the time, you’re going to crash and burn with a line like that – especially if you’re not experience and know how to calibrate a situation personally.
I’ve used that line and had success, and I’ve also had a drink thrown on me.
So plausible deniability is your way, as a man, to make her feel better about herself. To give her a reason to go back to your place, not for sex, but for something. Then, as the hamster flies, sex can “just happen”. All of a sudden, the story she tells her girlfriends the next day goes from…
Her: “He asked if I wanted to go home and have sex with him…and I did, but I was drunk and now I feel like a huge slut.”
Friend (gloating to herself): “Oh no girl you’re not a slut…it happens to all of us.” (Continues cackling to herself, knowing that her friend is sluttier than her.)
If you give her plausible deniability, that script flips…
Her: “We had a great time at the wine bar, and we went back to his place so he could show me the photos he took of that amazing church in Barcelona! It was beautiful. We had some more wine and he played guitar for me…and it just kinda happened!”
Her friend: Is now jealous.
Sure, it sounds like a cheesy Hollywood story, but while women don’t want the nice guys that Hollywood movies claim – they do want the “story” behind it to tell their friends – this is provided that she respects the man enough.
Can you sacrifice your masculinity to do cheesy shit like play songs for girls on guitar?
You still have to be a strong man, but you can use a bit of cheesiness as a way to give her plausible deniability. That way she ends up with a great story to tell her friends, gets fucked good, and has a man she respects.
And you get laid.
Here are some of the ways to give her plausible deniability to come home with you.
Also read: “Bait”.
This is my favorite, but I’m obviously a little biased. Here is a video of exactly how to pull it off:
Girls love a well-traveled man. Assuming you’re on a date with her, it’s inevitable that travel will come up (if either or both of you have seen the world a bit). So pitch her on showing a cool souvenir you acquired, or a picture with a great white shark you ran into while snorkeling – whatever it takes. It’s not so much the “thing” itself – but more about how you present it.
There is one catch to this: you almost have to explicitly say that you won’t have sex, or that there is simply no pressure.
If she tests you with a, “What, you want to go back and have a drink and you can try to have sex with me?”, then smash that thing out of the park.
“I’m not that easy.”
“You have to buy me dinner before I sleep with you!”
“Yes, I’m also going to chop your body into little pieces and BBQ you tomorrow.”
Use caution with the last one 😉
(I have used it and fucked the girl.)
Excitement turns them on.
I don’t smoke myself, but man – I’ve seen a ton of guys use this to great effect. At the end of the night, a lot of girls just want to chill out and relax. Weed is a way of doing it.
Again, it’s not about what you say.
It’s that you give her a reason.
Give her that plausible deniability so you can both have a fun night.