I have a confession: at one point, I didn’t understand how to dominate a woman.
Whether or not the sex was truly bad is another story in and of itself, but the point is that I didn’t know how to look deeper into her and give her the experience that all women crave. I did not understand the how and why behind women wanted to be sexually dominated.
And really, it’s hard for any young man to understand that these days with the way that we’re brought up. We’re told that gentle missionary is all that women want.
In reality, you must learn how to dominate a woman.
I might still be ignorant today if not for a girl I was dating, who said something that struck home with me. I had my lightbulb moment. It occurred to me that she, and likely many, many other women – wanted me to sexually dominate them. To own them. To see past their bullshit facade and to take her for my own.
To sexually dominate her until I had fucked all of her stresses, problems, and general life bullshit out of her system. To sexually dominate her until she was left nothing more than a heaping mess on the bed – quivering, with cum running down her legs – a mark showing that she was my fucking bitch.
Do you want to know what she said to me?
“Ughhhh, just rape me already.”
For context: we’d been fooling around a bit and she had playfully been resisting me for a few minutes, saying she wasn’t in the mood, she needed to get ready, and a bunch of other crap that I don’t remember now.
In reality, she wanted me to take her. She wanted me to learn how to dominate a woman. She gave me the keys to the kingdom.
This was my “Aha!” moment.
I knew I needed to learn how to dominate a woman properly.
Women and men take different journeys through their sexual experiences. Don’t get me wrong – we as men can have mind-blowing, passionate sex. And don’t get me wrong (again), it’s far more enjoyable than mundane sex with a fish that can barely flop (been there, done that).
But at the end of the day, as long as we finish – we’re satisfied. The end. The journey is not as important as the finish. Sure, we’ll enjoy the sex more if she’s enthusiastic and clawing at our back, but at the end of the day an orgasm is still an orgasm for us. It has to come out for us to fulfill our masculine destiny, from a biological perspective.
On the contrary, it makes absolutely no difference whatsoever from a reproductive standpoint if women cum or not. I’m not saying this to be selfish, but to be realistic. Sure, you could look at it from a perspective that if she has an orgasm, she’s tighter and more likely to make the man finish, but that argument is grasping at straws.
In reality, for women it’s all about the journey, not the destination.
This is why you must learn how to dominate a woman.
You can give a woman mind-blowing sex without ever giving her an orgasm. No matter how mind-blowing sex is for a man, if he doesn’t finish – it sucks. In fact, it’s downright painful.
TIP: The easiest way to give her an orgasm (from penetration) is to use a sex pillow like this.
To allow herself to be dominated a woman must mentally submit.
Read that again.
To dominate a woman she must mentally submit.
She will not mentally submit on her own accord. Quite the opposite, in fact. She will relentlessly test you to the edge of your existence if you don’t take control of the situation. So when I say she must “allow herself” to be sexually dominated, in reality it is up for you to take control and lead her in the proper direction.
Therefore, work on your frame from an emotional sense. Make sure you are leading her at all times – you pick the dates, you tell her when you’re free, etc. Do not show her too much emotion, and be her rock. Hold her close and make her feel safe. If she constantly cuddles up to you and nuzzles herself in, while looking into your eyes like a doe – you’ll know you have her in a situation where she could have a multi orgasm experience.
Again, it’s not about the big O.
It’s about the journey.
Have you seen 50 Shades of Grey?
It’s not optional viewing. If you’re so inclined, you can read the book, too. I couldn’t bring myself to finish it.
Why is it mandatory viewing?
Because 50 Shades of Grey is the fastest-selling paperback in the history of the United Kingdom. It sold 125 million copies in four years of being on the market. There’s a reason that it’s so damn popular with women – it lets them experience the journey of a sexually dominant fantasy in an “acceptable” manner, where they don’t look like sluts.
Why don’t they explore it in the bedroom with their partners, you ask?
Because they don’t have the guts or the comprehension to ask their partners for it. Most women can barely admit their raw fantasies to themselves, much less to outsiders. And with the state of masculinity in modern form, their men are too busy marching for feminist rights to be bothered to learn how to sexually dominate a woman.
After you watch 50 Shades of Grey, think about the journey that main character goes on. Looking past the billionaire penthouse and private helicopter rides, that girl is so entranced by him that it is a journey – he literally consumes her.
He owns that girl’s goddamn soul.
He sexually dominates her in every aspect of her life.
So while a girl may not be able to articulate her wants and needs for you to be a sexually dominant male, if you’re able to give her the journey – you own her soul.
It’s that simple.
(Home bondage systems are cheap.)
Doesn’t do anything for you?
It will, because she will be way more into it. Her throws of passion will excite you more and make the sex better – so just suck it up and deal with it, cupcake. If you’re afraid to get rejected by her from using this techniques, then you should take a good look in the mirror.
Don’t like it?
It is not optional to learn how to dominate a woman. This is just one of the first steps that you must make as a man to keep girls around. This is one of the steps you make to have your choice of girl(s). This is a step you must take if you want to be a man.
Otherwise, she’ll always be craving to be sexually dominated, in some form or another. And if you’re not giving her what she needs, then there is a realistic chance she’s going to be looking elsewhere. She’ll find a guy who knows how to dominate a woman. And she’ll never look back.
Or…you could be the one doing the choosing.
The one dictating the when, where, and frequency of sex.
The one she is constantly trying to please by serving you.
The one who is her drug that she needs.
The one who owns her soul.
Are you the one?
Will you step up to the plate?