Traveling solo is a very important aspect in the life of a single man.
It is no surprise that in the last few years there has been an increase in the amount of blogs touching the subject of traveling alone to distant countries and cities and seducing foreign women.
As a writer on the subject of masculinity and single lifestyle, I believe traveling alone or with male friends is one of the best tools for self improvement. The sense of pure freedom you can experience abroad, putting yourself in a spot where you are the main actor of an adventure – that’s the ultimate builder of independence and self confidence.
That’s the main reason why I reached out to Kyle for this collaboration – he enjoys traveling with male friends and has experienced the addictive allure of conquering exotic women in foreign places first hand.
I traveled to Vilnius in the summer of 2015. I had one of my best mates join me for the first week and stayed by myself for another 2 weeks – making the total stay around 23 days long.
In the span of three weeks I managed 5 notches and a blowjob with Lithuanian girls.
One of those lays came from classic nightgame (21 years old), another one came from daygame (19) and one more from ‘terasa game’ (19) – a concept I will explain in a bit. The remaining two lays and the blowjob where the results of Tinder game (20, 21 and 27).
I am a very well balanced person, after all 😉
Since these type of trips usually require a decent investment I’m going to break down my expenses to you. I hope you’ll be pleasantly surprised with what a lone wolf can achieve in a foreign country with little money – provided he makes intelligent decisions.
Total investment: 870€ – decent Return On Investment – almost a full month of adventures and Lithuanian girls.
To be honest there wasn’t just one ‘wow’ reason for it – but a mix of many small reasons that came up while I was researching potential destinations.
For starters it is very well connected to the rest of Europe by air – courtesy of Ryanair.
Language barrier is not an issue in Lithuania – virtually everyone under 30 speaks English.
It is a very cheap country by Western standards but the quality of life is actually pretty good – at least in Vilnius.
A very important reason for me was the fact that the city has not been spoiled by drunken western tourists yet. Unfortunately the same can not said about other Baltic capitals (I’m looking at you here, Riga). (Kyle’s note: you can also add Prague, Tallinn, parts of Poland, and more to this list…)
And last (but definitely not least): the Lithuanian girls. I had the feeling it would be a perfect place to seduce Lithuanian girls, and as it turned out I was not wrong.
So before I give you a detailed account of what Lithuanian girls are like, let me explain a few things about their dating culture.
First, you should know this about Vilnius – it is a traditional society that values monogamous relationships over adventures or one night stands.
In fact, it would be safe to assume that 80% of quality Lithuanian girls aged between 20 and 25 in Vilnius are in a relationship.
Lithuanian society may not be as traditional as Russian or Ukrainian ones (Maverick Traveler called Lithuania ‘the gate to Eastern Europe’) but it’s probably very different from what the average This Is Trouble reader is used to.
Although this conservative dating culture is slowly becoming more westernized, it poses a serious obstacle to your objective as a player – namely, banging Lithuanian girls.
So I devised strategies to bypass these obstacles.
There is something else you should know about the dating market in Lithuania – there are simply many more women than men.
As a result, demographics clearly work in our favor. Lithuanian girls face strong competition to find a suitable mate – it’s typical to see chumps with girlfriends that are way out of their league.
That is something that baffled me when I first arrived in the city, and had I not been successful in my conquers I would have been slightly bitter about it.
There is a lot to be said about Lithuanian girls, as they possess some unique traits that make them suitable for both short term adventures and long term relationships.
Aesthetically, the first thing one notices about Lithuanian girls is how amazing their hair is. I’m not joking here and I am not the first person to say this – walking around Vilnius feels like being thrown into a shampoo commercial.
50% of the women are blondes (natural or dyed) whereas 30% are dark brunettes and 15% are light brunettes.
If you have a thing for redheads (I know I do) they only make up about 5% of the female population.
A staggering 8 out of 10 women I spoke to had blue eyes – with green and brown eyes being more prominent among Slavic women.
Lithuanian girls also possess simply beautiful faces. Their facial features remind me of a mix of Slavic and Nordic – that’s a winning combination, if you ask me.
Because of this fierce competition I mentioned earlier, Lithuanian girls force themselves to stay slim and fit – meaning the obesity rates are extremely low. One of my dates actually said ‘Any Lithuanian woman bigger than a size 36* is considered fat’.
* US size 6
They also tend to be rather tall, which is not great for a 5″ 7′ guy like myself – but I liked the fact that even short girls had long legs.
But of course not all that glitters is gold – there are a few things to dislike.
I think the worst aspect of Lithuanian girls is that they defy the all-important question of ‘are you an ass man or a boobs man?’
The average girl walks around with small tits and a flat ass. In addition to that, their skin and teeth aren’t always as good as they should be – consequence of excessive smoking.
As for their personality, I would define Lithuanian girls as feminine, cultured and intelligent.
It is simply refreshing to be able to converse about Russian literature on a date or have a beautiful feminine woman holding your arm as you enter the Opera.
The downside of that intelligence and womanly intuition is that Lithuanian women are not gullible and will probably be suspicious of your intent – often coming across as cold and introverted.
They understand game and can be a tough nut to crack – but even icebergs melt when it is warm enough.
Women in Vilnius dress with a sense of style and elegance that will be a welcome sight for anyone coming from the west. I guess it helped that I went there in the summer and the girls were happy to wear short dresses and heels to show off their legs and skin.
(As for what you should wear, dress up and make an effort. The effort will be rewarded. A nice blazer, watch, and dress shoes (those are examples of what I was wearing) will go far. You don’t need to break the bank—but well-fitted, and a good style are musts.)
The majority of women you will find in Vilnius are ethnic Lithuanian girls – although there is an important amount of Russian and Polish blood around because of all the shared history.
Something I noticed was the amount of Russian speakers increasing during weekends, since Vilnius is apparently a shopping destination for Belarusians – and Minsk is only a couple of hours away.
In order to meet those sexy Lithuanian girls, you should be prepared to work hard. I’m not going to lie to you here – they’re not easy.
But they’re worth it, and unlike the women with cognitive dissonance who are likely to populate your home country, they value honest effort and recognize seduction as a dance in which the man leads and the woman follows. Therefore, it is as simple as screening them to find the most interesting prospects and putting your weapons to work.
Lithuanian girls tend to be honest and direct – they will let you know what they’re willing to do and what is not in the cards. The rejections I experienced were elegant and soft, but clear – this saved me a lot of valuable time and energy.
I recommend one of the following channels to meet women in Vilnius:
Nightgame got me inconsistent results. Most Lithuanian girls were easy to approach but hard to isolate, and they seemed to be at the club for the music and dancing with their female friends rather than to meet mysterious foreigners. The quality was also lower than what I’d see in the streets during the day – and Russian gold diggers were not uncommon. Still, I believe some places were worth the visit, such as Salento Pub (the go to place for foreigners) and Disco 311 Buddha. Corny clubs – but cheap cocktails and good female to male ratios.
I (repeteadly) banged this 21 year old cutie I met at Salento Pub.
Daygame in Vilnius was challenging – but also rewarding. I got quite a few rejections and quickly became desensitized, but the ones that hooked did so strongly. Annoyingly, most women walk around with their friends or mothers during the day – and of course the vast majority of quality women you’ll see during the day are in committed relationships.
The prime locations for Daygame are the main street (Gedimino Prospektas), the Cathedral Square, Vilnius University (except during summer) and any of the parks you’ll find in the centre.
I managed to get a handful of day two’s and instant dates, but only managed to close a cute (but boring) 19 year old.
Tinder is hands down the #1 way I would advise men to meet Lithuanian girls – especially if you’re not staying in the city long term. Why?
All I did was craft an interesting profile with cool pictures, mentioning I was a Spanish guy staying in the city for quite a while. I used my own Tinder strategies and I added a couple things I liked from The Tinder Template.
I used an app to change my location a week before arriving – so I could pipeline and have a few dates/city guides as soon as I arrived with my mate.
I had 78 matches by the time I boarded the plane and got around 30 more during my stay in the city. Ended up meeting 8 women, banging two (21 year old Lithuanian + 22 year old Russian) and getting a morning blowjob from another 27 year old Russian -her last minute resistance made it impossible to fully close.
Terasas (terraces) are phenomenal places to visit because the vibe is just great, especially in the late evening. They’re big outdoor bars that open exclusively during the summer and there is a sense of adventure lingering in the air – Lithuanians know their summer is short and want to make the most of it. The main (and best) terasa in the city is Vasaros Terasa.
Terasas usually feature live music and the booze is damn cheap. They also serve pub food so they make for great headquarters if you’re traveling solo. Such an atmosphere makes it easy to approach women left and right. That’s exactly what I did, although I found that a lot of my approaches ended up in girls introducing me to a bigger group and eventually partying with them – which was wonderful for my social life but not so much for the lay count.
I regret to admit I only banged one girl I met at Vasaros Terasa – a sexy 19 year old rocker I approached while she was watching a live DJ set one night.
As I have already mentioned, the average Lithuanian girl is much less inclined to one night stands and fast seduction than her western counterparts. Chances for a quick lay will increase if she’s got an interest in foreigners or has studied abroad, but on most occasions you will have to charm her for a bit.
Through the magical process of trial and error, I have come up with a few tips that will speed up the process and increase your rate of success.
Based on all the data and experiences I gathered, I developed a blueprint which I believe is optimal to bang Lithuanian girls.
My blueprint to maximize the chances of sleeping with Lithuanian women consists of 3 dates. It works regardless of how you’ve met the woman, but I believe it performs slightly worse with leads obtained via classic nightgame.
After meeting the girl for the first time (be it in person or virtually) and getting her number, claim you are in need of an quality tour guide and officially name her your sexy guide to Vilnius. This type of banter date results in something powerful – it helps build comfort, and she will start by showing you the typical touristy places first and will gradually move on to her favourite secret spots as she gets more comfortable around you.
Add some coffee/tea and childhood memories to that, flirt and escalate without pushing it too far (a kiss close is the optimal outcome) and she will be thanking you for an amazing day as soon as she gets home.
Warm her up on Facebook or Whatsapp for a couple of days and set a date for an evening – bonus points if it’s a Thursday or a Friday.
She is not the guide anymore. You are leading tonight and she should feel lucky to be out and about with a mysterious foreign man. Choose a classy bar or lounge – I recommend Carré Bar & Lounge – and dress sharply. You will probably notice other women checking you out – which means your date will notice it too.
Now is when you should use the best weapons in your seduction arsenal. Be bolder in your escalation, but remember to keep everything PG13 in public.
As the date comes to an end you will have to assess whether she is DTF or needs another couple of days to be ripe and juicy. If you decide to let her go for the night, make sure your kisses and touching (in private/hidden) get more sexual – without looking like a sloppy horny teenager – and tell her she has earned the privilege of a homemade dinner date with you. I like to brag about my mushroom Risotto and tell women they can be my sous chef or bring dessert as a way to thank me.
The hard work is done and she knows what the deal is. Greet her with a passionate kiss when she walks in but promptly turn your focus towards the task at hand – which should be cooking a quality meal while she helps you and you share a bottle of wine together. Keep the conversation light and fun during dinner – it’ll help her get at ease with the idea of being fucked soon.
Once you finish eating, bring the wine (or cocktails, or whatever) to the living room or bedroom, play some cool music or interesting/funny videos and escalate like a motherfucker – you’re not in public anymore, she is temporarily in your bubble and living a secret sexy adventure with you.
Then you bang.
Breakfasts are bloody cheap in Lithuania, so take her to a café to replenish your energy and save her having to leave your place on her own – that’ll ensure repeated business.
Once I started running that blueprint on my Lithuanian girls, it became much easier to close the deal. Of course, the beauty of it is that you can run it on different Lithuanian girls simultaneously – as a single man on holidays it felt great to go on a ‘Lounge date at Dawn’ the night after having brakfast with another girl, or the night before meeting one for ‘The Tour’.
And that’s all there is, folks.
I hope this little guide helps you seduce amazing women if you ever decide to stop by the Baltic jewel that is Vilnius – I know I will be returning soon. And I get the feeling the owner of this blog will be eager to explore it next time he’s in Europe. (Kyle’s note: Yes please.)
PS: One of the better sites to meet these beauties is this one.