“You’re Young, You Have Time!”

“You’re Young, You Have Time!”

God damn, I am sick of hearing this. Seems it’s almost a weekly occurrence that somebody says this to me. Often times, they’re older than me. Significantly older. They’re foolish. Time is the one thing you simply can’t get more of. I know this.

And yet, I’ve wasted a ton of time over these last few weeks. My trip to Budapest sucked away a bit of my soul in addition to killing my liver. I think a part of me is still sitting on top of the bridge crossing the Danube River. The bridge that I sat on and drank beer until the wee hours of the morning. In that moment, I was just free. There was no work. No stress. Just the gentle sounds of a city sleeping at night and the sound of the ice-cold Danube rushing beneath me.

Now I come back to California and think about really leaving. But fuck, it makes me panic. I debate whether I should make the leap to location-independent-fuck-you-9-to-5 this year. That scares the shit out of me. Someone tells me I’m young. That I have plenty of time to make the decision. Fuck you, I am not. 24 is right around the corner. I am about to pass from young 20s to mid 20s. The years are only going by faster. They will never slow down. And there is nothing I can do about that. All I can do is maximize what I have.

Back to moving abroad.

I can’t figure it out. I talk to fellow bloggers whom I write more than (by a lot), and yet, they get more views and sell more products. But I’m a tech guy, so I’m doing something wrong. I take suggestions and fix things, but there is still so much to do. This article on OKCupid gets over a hundred hits a day from Google. Yet no one buys Cracking OKCupid, even when they click through. I can’t seem to crack the secret to selling it. It is not making me enough to live abroad. Not that I expected it to fund my life, but I hoped maybe a small chunk.

On to the Indian-fested world of Elance. I spent tonight bidding on web design jobs. It felt like dating online. Copy and paste message -> modify a few things -> sell yourself the best you can -> hope they respond. What a crapshoot. This is how I want to make a living?


Elance bidding leads me to a glass of red wine and this blog post. Every day that isn’t a success is more time lost. Yet people keeping saying that I’m so young. I have plenty of time to figure things out. What horse shit. The countdown started the day I left the womb.

  • Jzb says:

    15 bucks is steep for an ebook – you’ll sell many more copies at a much lower pric epoint.


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  • BullittFauxHawk says:

    Yeah. Your price point is too high. I bought it for $10 and while good, I wouldn’t recommend it at a $20 price point. 5-10$ will probably help.

    You’re young enough you can still completely restart a career. You have maybe 5 more years of that so take your risks now.

  • wizardprang says:

    I would never tell a man “You’re Young, You Have Time!”, but I will say this: “It. Gets. Better.”.

    You are at an age when you are building your brand, you have time to make mistakes – little ones – and find your niche.

    What really makes me see red is when someone says that to *women*. A woman’s attractiveness to men is at its peak from 18 to 24, after which it drops to about half its peak value by 30, and is pretty much zero at 35. And yet women tell each other to “enjoy life” for as long as possible, then “settle down” when it is convenient for them. They only find out the truth – that attractiveness=fertility=youth” when until it is too late. Then they lament “where have all the good men gone?”, but that is another story for another time.

    As for me (WARNING: sample size=1), I’m in my fifties, and am happier than I have ever been.

    So I’ll say it again. It Gets Better – but only for men.

    • thomas osgoode says:

      agree with wizardpang. You are young and way ahead of your time so good on you for feeling the ‘angst’ now than when you are in your 30s! You have a blog following (meaning potential customer list) and you live life pretty well.

      Also agree about the comment about women in their mid-20s. I meet a few who say “I’m in no rush, I’ve got time…to work on my career and then find a guy blah blah blah”. But yea man, 25-26 is their peak.

      For you, this is just the beginning!

      • wizardprang says:

        “I’m in no rush, I’ve got time…to work on my career and then find a guy blah blah blah”

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