Who Can Men Confide In?
Halfbreed over at Red Pill Game recently dropped a solid post about how you really shouldn’t confide in your woman, or women.
That’s because many guys start trusting their women too much – just because they’ve had sex.
And that leads to them getting too comfortable, and talking too much.
That’s a massive mistake.
As depressing as it really is, Halfbreed really is on the ball with this. Of course, his post is referencing girls whom you’ve just recently sealed the deal with. In these cases, it’s extremely easy to become too needy, co-dependent, and obsessed with her. You wouldn’t believe how many guys I hear about who go out and ask for commitment, when in reality it should usually be the woman who broaches that topic and pushes for monogamy.
In any case, read his post – it’s the foundation for what I want to really discuss in this post. What I’m trying to figure out is, how much can you still confide in a woman, even if you’re in a monogamous, deeply fulfilling relationship with her?
Sadly, the answer is – not much.
Building off of what Halfbreed said, you want to keep your emotional side in check and to yourself. Granted, if you’re in a relationship, you will have to open up a little bit sooner or later, but it sure as hell isn’t going to make her more attracted to you. Women like mystery, not an open book to pour it’s heart and soul out to her.
So who are men left to confide in?
Ideally, you should have a good crew of men in the form of friends that you can confide in from time to time. Be aware that it’s easy to overburden them with the woes of your relationship, money, or other personal matters. They’re going to give you solutions to your problems, and if you’re unwilling to listen to their advice, they’re going to grow sick of it. If you’re dating a massive cunt, your buds tell you to dump her, and you don’t – well, they’re going to get sick of that, real fast.
In a perfect world, every young man would have a mentor. Someone ten or so years older, that has been through the trials and tribulations of your life. You are more likely to respect him because he has been there, done that. Sometimes it can be hard to listen and take the advice of your same-aged friends, simply because they haven’t done it.
I was fortunate enough to meet a very good friend who is about ten years my senior when I was just fourteen years old. He helped me learn game, business, and corporate America. I’m pretty lucky to have met him so early in life – I have no doubts I would not be as successful as I am without him.
If you don’t have a guy like this in your life, find him. He will be invaluable.