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My Little Sister’s White Knight

Enter, stage left, my little sister, Michelle.

This is her first year away for college.  She attends a pretty large university here in California.  Admittedly, it has not been the easiest first year for her as a college freshman.  First, two weeks into the first semester, her high-school and long-term (several years) boyfriend broke up with her.  I, of course, being the smart guy I am, called it in advance:

You probably will not marry your current boyfriend.

He’s a cool guy.  Mom, Dad and I all like him.  But he’s a total sissy, sis.  No offense.  More than likely, you will drift apart from him during your freshmen year.  It’s okay, and natural for that to happen.  99% of the long distance freshmen relationships did not work out in my dorm hall.  I only know of one that did, and they’ve now been together almost 7 years.  If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be, but more than likely, it will not be meant to be.  Now, assuming you guys break up….

Then, during her second semester, our beloved childhood dog passed away.  It hasn’t been an easy start to the college experience for her.  But, don’t think this post is a pity-party for Michelle.  Because quite frankly, she’s a fucking idiot.

You’re damn right she’s going to read this.  No one, not even my little sister, is spared of my brutal writing.

You see, Michelle has two roommates whom all cram and live together full time in a tiny little 12×10 room.  About a month ago, those three and two other girls had planned to live together in a 5 bedroom apartment starting next school year.  However, that all blew up.  Now Michelle and one of her roommates (let’s call her “Legs” because she’s tall as hell) are living together, along with two guys.  I think it’s a terrible idea, but that’s a whole ‘nother discussion I’m not going to dive into.  Now, these two boys they’re living with:

One is a faggot, the other is a White Knight.  Let’s call White Knight…Larry.  Yes, Larry will do.

White Knight (1) a man who “comes to the rescue” of a woman, or of women, reflexively, emotionally-driven, without thought or even looking at the situation; (2) a man in authority who enables Team Womyn in his legislative actions, judgments, or rulings, reflexively, emotionally-driven, without thought or even looking at what’s right.

I hate dropping too much Manospherian/PUA lingo, but it’s appropriately necessary for the story I’m about to tell.

Larry the White Knight has been the one who has been the shoulder to cry on for my sister throughout her ordeals over these past few months.  Walking with her late at nights, letting her vent, comforting her.  You know, everything you do if you don’t want to get your dick wet.  Which I’m fine with, because I’m not big on the idea of my little sister getting dicked down.

However, now these two are now LIVING TOGETHER next year, and they have now, perhaps inevitably, developed feelings for each other.  Note that I did say feelings for each other, which is admittedly quite shocking.  Little sis has typically gone for the “nicer” boys, if you can call them that.

You now what I call those guys, including Larry?  Fucking cowards.  I was them long ago.  I’d sit and wait patiently for my chance to woo a girl.  I would be the emotional tampon, letting them dump all of their problems, whether it be money, boys, or depression, on me.  Hoping that deep down, they’d someday see what a great guy I was, and then proceed to let me put my dick inside of them.

Yeah, romantic.

In reality, it’s because Larry was not man enough at the start of the year to make his feelings known and make a move.  Now, they’re both in a shitty situation, in which they both want to explore what is there for their relationship, but obviously can’t due to the fact that they’ll be living together next year, with two other people, none the less.  At 19 years old, I sure as hell wasn’t ready to live with someone I was dating (I did it at 20, terrible idea).

Yet, somehow these two teens who are living away from home for the first time are supposed to just snap a lid shut on their feelings and handle them like adults.  They’ve been kissing and hanging out all the time.  I see no circumstance in which this ends good.

Michelle, kiddo, I love you.  I really do.  You are mature, elegant, and have a good heart and head on your shoulders.  As much as you like to think that you can handle this, as much as you say he’s not a rebound, and as much as you say you’ll have the willpower to put your foot down, it’s going to be hard.  It is impossible to be objective about your own situation, so stop trying.  You are a girl; girls will rationalize everything and anything in order to make it happen.

You’ll go on and on with the wheels spinning in your head until you talk yourself into how it makes sense to sleep with him.  Don’t do it.  You deserve better than a guy who plays your hardships like a fiddle, as a way to manipulate himself into something more in your life.

As a final note, Michelle has mentioned my blog and my womanizing skills to Larry.  He thinks it’s awesome, he wants to meet me and learn from me.  We need no further proof that he’s the perfect example of a White Knight.  He’s a sneaky guy who waited until the princess was in distress to make his move.

Coward.

  • Yeah… Trouble, your sister seems to be strapping her heart to the front of a crash test vehicle and hitting the release. Time is the only variable between her and “squish!”
    I never lived with a girl until I got married because of the kind of nightmare she is inviting into her life.
    Where money (rent) and sex (Larry’s cock) mix… explosions happen.
    Might as well take a dump on your table during Thanksgiving Dinner.

  • Yeah… Trouble, your sister seems to be strapping her heart to the front of a crash test vehicle and hitting the release. Time is the only variable between her and “squish!”
    I never lived with a girl until I got married because of the kind of nightmare she is inviting into her life.
    Where money (rent) and sex (Larry’s cock) mix… explosions happen.
    Might as well take a dump on your table during Thanksgiving Dinner.

  • Sneaky motherfucker. Neither alpha or actually nice. He sounds like a right pussy and it’d be a mistake to fuck him. Let her know that (from a selfish point of view, maybe) if she keeps him in the friendzone then she benefits the most and at least he carries on pretending to be nice. If she sleeps with him, that’s gone in a heartbeat.

  • Shit… I never would have caught that Lucky. It never occurred to me to be “nice” to a girl the way this guy is.
    Months of effort were never my forte. But, I like to think I was never as thirsty as this cat.

  • laidnyc says:

    Michelle,
    Consider the fact that Larry can’t get laid elsewhere. Watch girls ignore him at parties.

    Larry looks up to a guy like your brother who can get laid whenever, yet he doesn’t do the same. This isn’t because “he’s nice” or “isn’t like that”. It’s because he can’t. He can’t get laid.

    Do you really want to date a guy who couldn’t get another girl? How would it feel, not to be chosen but rather settled for because he can’t get anybody else?

    • I’ve encouraged her to respond to this particular comment, but I don’t know if she will. But, she did text me this last night when we were discussing it.

      “He’s not the super innocent kid who never had a girlfriend, or didn’t have many friends. This won’t help my case much but he’s had plenty of girlfriends, lost track of the girls he’s kissed, hooked up with a small respectable number, and he was in the upper tiers of high school social life. He thinks he’s the shit and he pisses me off every day, but he’s still a best friend.”

      My first thought is that he’s a paper alpha, but clearly, whatever he is doing is working, to an extent.

      • laidnyc says:

        Of course, I am skeptical. Anyone can say they were cool in high school. Even if he kissed a few girls, were they cute and thin?

        I’d say she should look at his college social life. Do girls at the college find him attractive? If Michelle cut him out of her life, could he easily find another girl as attractive as her?

        Michelle, is it possible he knows girls don’t like inexperienced men so he is pretending his past with girls is better than it really is?

        but the flipside, which is actually worse.. If I’m wrong, and he could lay college girls like tile if he wants to with his weasel-like game, what makes you think he wouldn’t just move on after hooking up with you?

  • You should take him out to get a bite to eat or drinks, and really probe him. Your sister has her mind made up and women can be very stubborn when it comes to these things. Just get to know him and see if he’s a weasel or an alpha. If the guy knows she has a brother that could potentially kick his ass, he will not pull any crap with her so easily, unless he’s the real deal and then you shouldn’t worry much about her. If this thing doesn’t work out ( and it usually doesn’t, specially since they are not even old enough to drink yet) she will come to her senses or he will and abort this (stupid) desicion.

  • You should take him out to get a bite to eat or drinks, and really probe him. Your sister has her mind made up and women can be very stubborn when it comes to these things. Just get to know him and see if he’s a weasel or an alpha. If the guy knows she has a brother that could potentially kick his ass, he will not pull any crap with her so easily, unless he’s the real deal and then you shouldn’t worry much about her. If this thing doesn’t work out ( and it usually doesn’t, specially since they are not even old enough to drink yet) she will come to her senses or he will and abort this (stupid) desicion.

  • Mesmerick says:

    Dude, I can understand your frame here but be open to the possibility that your being harsh on the guy. Under what circumstances would you be happy for your sister for any guy she was dating? Why does he have to tick your boxes to begin with? He’s doesn’t have to please you to be in a relationship with your little sis, he doesn’t have to be an awesome blokey-mcbloke whose got everything together at the ripe old age of 20 fresh out of home. He pushes her buttons and makes her happy, why does he need to concern himself with supplicating to her brother whose hundreds of miles away (and he doesn’t want to fuck). Not everyone has racked up the accomplishments you have at 22, use your lofty perch to to pause and reflect for a moment “There but for the grace of god go I.”

    Why denigrate a guy for not treating your deeply loved sister like pump and dump trash, and making the most of circumstance and proximity? From your posts she sounds like a cool girl, maybe it won’t last but really, meh. Don’t waste the hate, just keep on trucking.

    • Because he’s a using the circumstances, which are sad, for his personal gain.

      Does that seem like the kind of guy I’d want my sister dating?

      • Mesmerick says:

        And if not him, then someone worse for her. It sounds as though she could do a lot worse, he’s not responsible for the circumstances which led to her moving away or breaking up with her previous lover and someone just little bit further right on the scale of Super-asshole is likely to make better husband material. Alpha/Beta traits re Athol Kay. I reference my earlier point about him not needing to please you to be in a relationship with your sister. Alpha can be learned, honed to a womanisers edge, your sister sounds like the kind of girl who brings out the best in people, give it time.

        These last few posts from you seem very out of character from your usual high quality of writing. Have you noticed a boost in your T-levels lately?

  • Mesmerick says:

    Dude, I can understand your frame here but be open to the possibility that your being harsh on the guy. Under what circumstances would you be happy for your sister for any guy she was dating? Why does he have to tick your boxes to begin with? He’s doesn’t have to please you to be in a relationship with your little sis, he doesn’t have to be an awesome blokey-mcbloke whose got everything together at the ripe old age of 20 fresh out of home. He pushes her buttons and makes her happy, why does he need to concern himself with supplicating to her brother whose hundreds of miles away (and he doesn’t want to fuck). Not everyone has racked up the accomplishments you have at 22, use your lofty perch to to pause and reflect for a moment “There but for the grace of god go I.”

    Why denigrate a guy for not treating your deeply loved sister like pump and dump trash, and making the most of circumstance and proximity? From your posts she sounds like a cool girl, maybe it won’t last but really, meh. Don’t waste the hate, just keep on trucking.

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