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Signs of a Healthy Society

signs of a healthy societyLook at the photograph on the right. Take a good, long, hard look.

If you live in a more traditional society in the world, then what you see isn’t going to surprise you. It’s just another day in the office.

However, if you live in the West, you probably had a bit of a, “Wow they’re young!” moment.

Well, I had about ten of those moments when I spent a day at the former Ukraine president’s mansion personal Disneyland (and I’m not kidding, go take a look for yourself).

It just blew my mind that so many, so young couples were there taking their wedding photos. Many of them whom are younger than me — some of the brides had to be between 18 and 20. And the men, too. This was not a case of Ukrianian brides marrying an older rich guy.

These couples were truly young and in love.

You could just tell by looking at their faces (even the men!). While part of me wanted to laugh and call them a sucker, I realized that maybe I’m the sucker after all.

After all, I’m the one traveling to the far corners of the world…searching for something — albeit I still don’t know what that “something” is.

Part of me is a bit jealous, maybe. Hell, definitely. Here we have young men wifing up beautiful, young, likely (hopefully!) chaste girls. Within a year or two they’ll probably have a baby together, and that will pretty much be their life. A simple life, full of hard work and lacking hedonistic pleasures that are a part of my day-to-day routine, but a great life nonetheless.

Or is it that we just want what we can’t have?

It’s funny to look at these men and realize that their situation is not so different than mine.

For example, my entire led me to where I am today. Traveling the world.

Seducing exotic and sexy foreign women. Falling in love left and right, occasionally.

But I’m only here today because my own society failed me in that aspect.

My opportunity to do what these young men are doing — marrying their likely high school sweetheart — was never even an option.

Girls I went to high school with were too excited to head to college and live out the glory days.

On the flip side, these young Ukrianian men would rarely think of traveling the world, forgoing marriage to do crazy shit, and generally living the playboy life. 

You could say their society failed to give them that option, and it’d be a fair argument.

The question is — who wins?

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  • Doesn’t matter if you get married, live the PUA life or a celibate life you’ll always repent your decision. “As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will, he will be sure to repent.”

    I guess wanting what you don’t have also plays a role and deep down every man wants this special kind of women with whom he can settle down. Fact of the matter tho is that those women don’t exist which can cause internal trouble at least I went through that and I guess you are going through it as well which would explain “the search” for the thing you don’t quite understand.

    I sort of settled this problem logically and asked myself the question: Would it be beneficial for me to engage in a long-term relationship/get married or not, it sounds incredibly simple and it is however, incorporating this truth and fully “swallowing the pill” so to speak is hard because the social conditioning is quite strong.

    I could go on but I’ll probably write about this myself in the near future haha.

    • hoodlum81

      “The search” is the search for the self worth denied to us by either our childhood experiences, or the societies in which we were raised.

      • So regardless we’re doomed?

      • hoodlum81

        To the contrary. It can be found. The key is to realising where to look for it.

        Making the most of ourselves on a personal level is a must.

        Over and above that though, it must be realised that real happiness and self-worth is found in family, friends and relationships.

        Beyond a bit of necessary experience of how to get women, it is not going to be found in an endless stream of hollow sexual encounters, which do nothing other than gratify our egos for a short period of time. And the more you do it, the less you even get this much out of it.

      • There’s the occasional person who does revel in that life. Truly. Use James Hunt as an example.

        The modern PUA? Naw.

    • But from a historical perspective, I don’t think men really wanted to live the “international playboy” lifestyle in years past.

      Sure, there were the few and far between, and those guys always existed.

      But for the most part the majority of men were happy with settling down with one.

      • You’re right. I think the playboy lifestyle developed because of feminism and how it fucked up the dynamics between Men and Women. The problem is we can’t go back to those times therefore settling with one women isn’t viable imo.

        Sure, in some cases it might work but I wouldn’t spend my time trying to pursue this ideal since there are more important and better things to do.

      • But it’s absolutely possible if you head east.

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  • Could be a case of the grass is always greener but who really knows for sure. Fortunately, it looks like American guys could have the chance to experience the best of both worlds if we can break out of corporate life.

    • You mean being able to whore it up for a while and then settle with a good one?

      Don’t count your eggs before they hatch — I’ve realized in just three months here that my entire dating mindset is…well, kinda fucked up. It’s taking some time and a lot of self reflection to really come to mental terms with it.

      • Yeah fair point. Meeting good wholesome girls can make you realize prolonged travelling bachelorhood is often times just a logical response to not being able to find quality girls at home

      • Yes exactly. It’s forced reaction. Almost evolutionary. Necessary to survive.

  • hoodlum81

    They win.

  • Interesting article brother. It comes down to what you want in life. For some it is getting married, having a kid, and working. While others would prefer to travel, make money, and enjoy other parts of life. In my opinion neither is good or bad as long as they are fulfilled and happy.

    Of course you and I both know the horrors stories of men selling themselves short by marrying young so there are many parts to this.

  • Ash

    It’s sometimes tough for me to think about young marriage and not cringe a little. I just don’t think most 18-24 year olds know what they are doing or have what it takes to make a marriage thrive. They are so young, inexperienced, and immature. I don’t know if that’s a western mentality or not. But don’t get me wrong, if they are happy and can beat the odds, then that’s awesome.

    I don’t think it should be a contest. If you are happy, then you win. We are all destined for different lifestyles. I know a lot of married men who would love to have your lifestyle. I know I’m happy being a child free woman with a great long term relationship that hasn’t “settled down” for anything.

    • Yes, that’s why women should be marrying older men in those circumstances. I do tend to agree than two 24 year olds (and obviously two 18 year olds) getting married and having babies is…well, a journey!

      But if you love them I suppose I see the appeal in taking that plunge together.

  • Nicolas Versteher

    The big thing you get out of marriage is great kids. There’s risk in marriage, but the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward.

    Check out this article on marriage:

    • Exactly.

      Minus the kids I don’t think I’d want marriage. But I do want them, someday. To give them the best opportunities, I’ll likely take the plunge.

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