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The Ethical Player

This morning, I said goodbye to my main and favorite girl in Poland.

And as I got into the Uber at her apartment, I was really upset. Because I came to the realization that this is now the third goodbye I’ve said to a great girl in the last half a year (here is the first, and here is the second).

It’s really upsetting.

Because it’s almost unavoidable. As you keep moving forward in life, you inevitable leave people behind. There’s no choice, else you become stagnant. But here I am, trampling all over hearts and moving on to the next like there’s no tomorrow.

In fact, there is no tomorrow in sight.

I’m a bit of an “old soul”. Always have been. Always will be. Ask some of the guys I hang out with who are ten, fifteen, or twenty years older than me. I get along much better with them than I do people my own age.

So from an emotional sense, I’m old.

Which leads to my codundrum.

Eventually, I want a family and kids. I know that. I’ve realized I will not want to be a player forever.

The problem is that the future Mrs. Trouble is probably somewhere between 10-12 years old right now.

I’m not a fool – I know if I were to settle down now, I’d be trading my future prime for a girl’s decaying assets. I realize that I would never forgive myself for doing so, and would probably end up resenting Mrs. Trouble, too.

Sex and relationships are transactional in nature. Gripe all you want that it takes the romance out of things, but I’m a realist. I don’t live in a Disney-fantasy world. As far as I’m concerned, if a girl is getting a guy like me in his prime, I want her prime too.

A fair trade.

Which means that when I’m in my prime in the middle of my 30s, Mrs. Trouble should be aged somewhere between 18-22, give or take a couple of years.

So do the math on that.

I’m currently 24, and looking for at least a 10-12 year age gap.

Meaning that even if I ended up with a 22 year old, I’m still 11 (well, almost 10 now) years away from 35.

22 – 11 = 11.



Am I supposed to do in the meantime?

Just trample on the hearts of (potentially) dozens of girls for the next ten or more years? Leave some other guy to pick up the pieces? Granted, that was me at one point. I would’ve settled for the leftovers. I recognize that the universe must be “unfair” on paper in order to …well, keep order.

But I just wonder if it’s even fair to myself.

Will I wreck my own soul on a train that doesn’t have a stop for at least ten years?

Will it bite me in the ass?

All I know is that when I climbed in that car this morning – I felt like I was leaving a bit of myself behind, embracing her.

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  • ten zły

    Well there is more paths than just player and complete blue pill pussy.

    And to be honest there is more to life than just girls and sex.

    • Of course.

      I fully believe in balance.

      But, my dilemma still holds true. I can’t be celibate for ten years!

      • ten zły

        And why would you?

        Just do what you feel is right and in balance. If you don’t feel like being player that fucks 100+ girls a year is right for you then don’t.

        I’m not telling you how to live your life, just saying that if you don’t feel like player script is right for you then screw player script. That does not mean that you have to live in celibate or settle down. Life has infinite possibilities.

      • Of course, but the same predicament is here.

        No matter which way I look it seems I will be causing heartbreak to some poor girl who I know deep down I can never fully be with. This is nearly unavoidable for at least a few years.

      • ten zły

        Well, I am no expert with girls, but it seems to me like you are overreacting a bit, it is not like girls are precious, delicate snowflakes, they can handle a little bit of heartbreak. Well, at very least they mother could go through much more difficulties during soviet era and still create stable family (if we speak about women from eastern and central Europe).

        Anyway you are capable man, I am sure you can manage to find a way to do what you think is right without restricting yourself to celibate.

      • Yeah, I’m being drastic. I’m not losing any sleep over this, more or less just random musings as always.

      • ten zły

        Maybe it is one of those things that you have to accept in live? Just like fact that you will die someday. Or fact that you sometimes need to hurt other to protect yourself or love ones. Sure, it’s not nice, but world is not playground for kids.

      • ten zły

        And you can always try to be honest about your intentions. Well… I’m not sure if that would work, because of course emotions and understanding something not always go together.

      • You’ll be surprised how much you can “get away” with (such as having a girlfriend and still banging other girls) if you just are honest and hold the frame.

        You must be an inmovable object though.

      • ten zły

        Well, That is true in all aspects of life, not only game.
        Although honesty does not equal being rude, as some people assume.

  • Magmaheart

    you could to 1-3 years type relationships and build something, and then when you’re ready, to engage long term. chasing is a lot of effort and time. or you could do like blackdragon. Map out the possibilities, the why, the advantages

    • Yeah, once I wrap up the constant travel and settle somewhere semi-permanently (likely July), I know I won’t be chasing.

      I’ll have one main girl and set it up in a harem like I always do.

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